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O/T - DW has me very frustrated today

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Submitted by Rhinodad on Wed, 06/04/2014 - 2:12pm

So, our BS3 has had a bad cough since January that just seems to linger. We kept taking him to his normal doctor's office, seeing different doctors there and it was always something different and no one could give us an answer or make the cough go away. We finally switched doctors and the one we saw immediately sent BS3 to an allergist.

Seeing it from the other side, sort of.

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Submitted by Rhinodad on Mon, 06/02/2014 - 3:26pm

So I haven't written in a while, and things had been relatively quiet around here until last night.

So, SD's Biodad is involved with a woman since late last year. Anyway he asked her to move in a couple months ago. He told my DW about this I guess just to let her know that this woman would be in SD7's life now. My suspicion is that her moving in is more motivated by the fact that he is a loser who can't keep a job, let alone pay his rent and bills, meanwhile she is a recently graduated nurse who has a decent salary. Anyway, off-topic.

Not sure why this bothers me so much.

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Submitted by Rhinodad on Tue, 05/06/2014 - 10:21am

So, this is not our week with SD7... yet SD7's drama continues to play a part in our daily lives.

Last night I was on the phone with my mother (who wanted to talk to my BS3 as they will be visiting in a couple of weeks), and I heard DW's phone ring. She took it and went in to the other room, but I could hear her putting on her "no-nonsense" voice.

Biodad's new GF

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Submitted by Rhinodad on Mon, 05/05/2014 - 2:48pm

...has led to some interesting things around here.

This may be a long one. Out of the blue about two weeks ago SD7 says she doesn't want to go to her dad's house as often anymore. This is INCREDIBLY shocking to me (and DW, for different reasons), because BioDad is Disney Dad Extraordinaire. All SD7 does over there is play video games, eat junk food, go see movies, go to comic book conventions, etc. Mind you BioDad is always telling my DW he has no money, yet he can afford to eat out constantly, have a new video game or toy for SD7 every week, etc.

Tantrums

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Submitted by Rhinodad on Mon, 05/05/2014 - 1:15pm

So, DW and I had out argument on Friday, primarily concerning SD7, but also parenting in general, and how we needed to get on the same page. She thinks I'm too hard on both kids (SD7 and BS3) and I think she does not correct inappropriate behavior (SD7's lying and temper tantrums, and BS3's jumping on furniture and not listening). Anyway while it was strained between DW and I, I did notice her making a real effort to correct SD7's behavior, which was made all the more interesting in that SD7 was a total drama queen this weekend.

Ranting tonight.

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Submitted by Rhinodad on Thu, 05/01/2014 - 9:27pm

So DW and I had a big blow-out tonight.

Apparently, the fact that SD7 is a huge liar is not a big deal. She constantly lies to me, her teachers, pretty much any adult who is not her mom. She lied right to my face this morning, in front of DW.

DW says to me "I don't think she meant to lie." Riiiight. Just like SD7 always says when I catch her lying: "It was an accident."

I'm not buying that nonsense. And the awesome fact that DW never, EVER, backs me up. Never punishes Sd7 for lying, has nothing to do with her continued lying.

Why is it always my job?

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Submitted by Rhinodad on Fri, 04/25/2014 - 1:32pm

So, a few days I was talking with DW about getting BS3 in a learn-to-play t-ball league or a tykes soccer league or something during the summer. The kid loves being outside and seems to have an affinity for sports.

We were talking about it for a while and DW says: "We should sign SD7 up for something this summer."

Small victories

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Submitted by Rhinodad on Wed, 04/23/2014 - 9:49am

Had a small victory yesterday with DW regarding SD7.

It is not our week with her, she is with BioDad this week. DW found out about a kids event at the state expo center not too far away from us, and thought it would be a fun time to take BS3 to.

She asks me "should I see if we can get SD7 from her father to go with us?"

My response: "No. This is her week with her father, if he wants to take her to something fun he can." (I know he won't, they'll just play video games all weekend).

What age to stop reading to child?

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Submitted by Rhinodad on Fri, 04/18/2014 - 9:42pm

So, DW and I are having a disagreement. What age is appropriate to stop reading to a child in bed?

SD7 is very nearly 8, and reads very well. Her best subject in school, in fact. However, DW insists we still need to read to her ever night. At that age when I was a kid, I was reading to myself at night. I think when my BS3 can read well enough I'd want him reading by himself too.

SD throws a fit if she doesn't think we're going to read at least 1-2 pages to her. I think it is just an attention thing.

Thoughts?

report cards and summer camps

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Submitted by Rhinodad on Tue, 04/15/2014 - 12:57pm

So, another SD-school related issue came up yesterday/this morning.

SD7 says to me yesterday: "Can you please sign my agenda today? Nobody has been signing it." That means, of course, that BD did not sign it last week, because DW signs it every day. Anyway, I go ahead and sign it for her, since I checked and she has no HW today. I proceed to look back through the agenda and it was not signed at all last week. I mention it to DW and that SD asked me to sign. There was some other stuff in the agenda though...

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