served court papers today to bm.
well today was our day to pick up sd and to serve bm with the contravention papers. as hubby is the one filing the breach of orders, i had the pleasure of handing over the forms to bm yay me...
i tell ya i have never met another person so rude or arogant as this woman. for as over a year now i have refused to answer the door to this woman or be the handover person in anyway i don't even speak to her on the phone and hubby is usually the one who deals with the attitude, i know hubby has said shes rude only grunts in reply to questions or ignores you completely but today was a first hand experience and she is awful.
we arrived at bms house a few minutes past 6 and i knocked the door i could hear sd inside all excited about her daddy being there to pick her up and she ran to the door, i then heard bm tell sd to get away from the door in a not so nice tone and that she could not answer it. so i waited a few minutes more have no idea what they where doing but then when the door was opened sd rushed out and was very excited to see me and couldn't stop yabbering away so that felt good that she liked me picking her up hubby was just in the car but it was nice. the bm just stared at me didn't say a thing just stared she did close her door a little so that i could not see into her home like i would want to anyway i believe it would give me nightmares to be honest. anyway rambling sd could speak fast enough to ask how i was and to tell me all her news from that day, sd then asked if i would like to see her bedroom and bm in a very cold tone said no and moved to block sd getting back in the house, i then procided to hand bm the papers and said that on behalf of hubby i was serve her papers and she had to sign a form to acknowledge recieving them i had a pen so that was all good she just stared at me like i was an alien or something but she took them rolled her eyes and then told me she would not sign the paper work as it was not completely filled in her details missing so i filled it in then asked her if her name was spelled right and what not and all she did was grunt i could not believe it she actually grunted like a pig when i had finished filling in the missing details she said can i have the pen and procided to grab it from me no please or a pause just a rude snip and a grab as soon as sheld signed she simply closed the door didn't even say goodbye to sd.
i'm completely disgusted by the way a woman can be so rude in front of her child and then even rude to her own daughter it makes me so angry that she can't even be civial for sd sake it just straight out loathing and pig headedness. anyway next tuesday is hubby's birthday and the orders in place state clearly that we can have sd for his birthday so hubby is going to ask this sunday at handover about picking up sd from school and then bm collecting her at 6pm so we can see her for that few hours. we'll see how it goes but if she denies it again we will file more papers wednesday.
with the current papers being filed the hearing is on friday the 21st of september at 9.30am so we will see what comes from that and if we have another hearing due to tuesdays stuff.
hope all you lovely people have a nice polite weekend.
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Why didn't DH serve BM the papers?
I'm just wondering why YOU had to serve the papers to BM instead of DH? Obviously the BM loathes the very sight of you per your description above, plus she seems so mean to you that I would hope DH would be sensitive to that and do it himself. I may not know the whole story, but it makes me wonder why you did it instead of him.
I'm appalled at how the BM mom treats you....as well as every other BM who treats the many step-mom's whose stories I've read on this website. I'm not a step-mom but I am a BM and fortunately my ex and I have split amicably (strange huh?). He does have a girlfriend with kids and quite frankly everyone gets along really well. I think it has to do with the fact that I just didn't want to be married to him anymore because of many serious issues that we had as a couple so we've gone our separate ways as spouses, but not as parents to our three kids. My point is, I think because I was the one to initiate the divorce, I was really sure of myself that I didn't want to be with him anymore and that if he wanted to be with someone else, better her than me! That's not meant to be mean to any future step mom to my kids, (or to any of you step-mom's out there) but my ex and I just were not meant to be together for the long haul and I really hope he finds what he is looking for. Furthermore, it doesn't make any sense to me to be mean to any new woman in my ex's life! If she makes him happy and the kids like her and she's good to the kids, then what's the problem? It doesn't hurt to be nice to people. It's like these nasty BM's do all this horrific stuff because they have nothing else to do and they feel they are above the law and whatnot, so the rules don't apply to them. Sick.
After reading many of the blogs on this site, it sickens me that there are so many crazy bm's out there that make the decent bm's look bad. All the stuff that I read here about the antics that these women put DH's and SM's through is so immature, never mind pathetic! It sounds like a lot of the BM's are just unhappy people that feel like they have to be mean to other people to make themselves feel better! And they are jealous that their ex-spouses have been able to find nice women and move on with their lives. Every situation is different. Why can't we all just get along with each other?
It's possible you might be thinking I'm from another planet and that anyone with a situation as good as mine is a complete farce or an anomaly, but I'm not kidding, this is my life right now. I do hope to find someone to share my life with eventually and be happy with, and treats me and my kids well without any drama! That might be too Pollyanish but what's wrong with thinking positively? We all deserve happiness in our lives. When the time is right for me to meet that person, it will happen.
From one sane bm to all you great step-moms out there, keep up the good work. At the same time, don't be doing things that DH should be doing (like serving papers to a bm), not you. Which is the original reason I replied to begin with!
Take care and be well everyone!
why did i serve the papers...
well i live in adelaide australia and on orders from the court i or another represenative for my hubby had to serve the papers on behalf of him i'm not to sure why i just know that every time we have served papers this is the protocal. i hate it very much but as it is what we are instructed to do we do it.
on another note thank you ever so much for your kind words it sounds like you are most defantly a rarity but a person with their head on right, which i think is fantastic.
all the best and hopefully your situation stays just as happy as it is now forever.
What are you in court for?
What are you in court for? The birthday?
Jenniferlynn
we are going to court for a
we are going to court for a few things currently, the contravention is due to the bms refusal to uphold to orders and denyed our fathers day access, and secondly we are going to court to have the current orders amended to cover some of the other issues we have with the bm which currently shes getting away with due to it not being covered in the orders.