I know it's not true of everyone, so I don't want to offend anyone with a blanket statement. However, I can't help but wonder if a lot of these really overly unhealthy relationships broke up because of BM's psych disorder, and maybe often those disorders are genetic? I know for a fact that ss8's BM had problems and she died because they were never properly addressed. (See previous post for some of that story) I'm also convinced ss inherited them from her 1/2 nature and 1/2 nurture. He has severe...I mean severe ADHD, and I'm convinced ODD, maybe RAD.