Who else's DH/AHH/SO/BF plays the "victim"? A show of hands please...
And the Oscar, for best actor in a blended family drama goes to? AHH!!! *applause* I'll make this brief, but does anybody else have a grown-ass man who plays the victim with gusto? I am in day three of co-habitation and no communicado with AHH and the "victim" status is full on. In fact, it's so orchestrated that I actually chuckled, out loud, last night as he sighed and threw himself on couch dejected because I didn't sing his praises because he bought me a $10 bouquet of flowers. Right, cause that clearly fixes years of psychological abuse and gaslighting by you, manipulation by your son, and just plain malice by your ex.
So wondering, does anybody else have a "victim" on their hands? It totally leaves me cold. If you want to really play the "victim" I can arrange for a pool of your own blood and a chalk line, I can assure you, AHH...
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Thanks for the book
Thanks for the book recommendation, but at this point I don't care about him changing. I just want him gone. And he will be gone. I can ignore him for the next three weeks easily enough.
I just wondered if this was a pattern with men of my generation.
I think it's got something to
I think it's got something to do with the fact that some of these men have to fight/struggle with their ex's and their children, its a constant battle and stress. Am SM's we have had front row seats to these emotions also, however they can become consumed with the negativity and if they do not have families who tell them to man up instead of blowing smoke up their arses (even when they are in the wrong) then they genuinely believe they are hard done by. Doesn't matter if they have a million great things going right for them, they will focus on what is not and they will NOT grow to accept how certain things are e.g. being a weekend dad, having a difficult ex...
My advice is a dose of reality instead of commiserating with them, but that is only if you can get through to them and WANT to. In your case, you do not as he has blown it.
Are you kicking him out after Christmas then and does he know you are leaving him?
I made that mistake once with
I made that mistake once with DW. Playing the victim, pouting, sighing and in general acting like a teenage girl with PMS.
She purchased me a bottle of midol and left it on my dresser with a note of "Take two, when your attitude adjusts call me".
BAAHAHAHAHAHAAA love this!!!
BAAHAHAHAHAHAAA love this!!!
Yep, got one. Whenever
Yep, got one. Whenever things don't go his way he sleeps in the extra bedroom and then acts like I "asked/told" him to sleep there. I just plainly state "I didn't say you had to sleep anywhere else. That is your choice and your childish behavior. I'm not going to beg and plead for you to come back to the bedroom. I end up with the king size bed to myself." He keeps trying it but not winning any prizes. I however am hogging that King size bed!
Our DH/AHHs must use the same
Our DH/AHHs must use the same "victim" playbook. Mine does the same thing. Only I stopped chasing after him and begging him to come to bed. Apparently that's one of the symptoms that I've "changed". It's MY fault again. I'm not taking enough of an interest in HIM.
They are worse than a pack a
They are worse than a pack a teen-age girls on their periods! Fine, sleep somewhere else. That means I get the entire bed and I don't have to listen to you snore. It's a win-win for me!
Yup- He does the whole "Do
Yup- He does the whole "Do you love me?, You don't even like me anymore, Why are you being so mean to me, What did I do to deserve the silent treatment" etc. I'm at a loss for words FDH- it's not the silent treatment, I'm so disgusted by your lack of acting like a real man and playing the victime pity party I just don't have shit to say to you.
Ugh, truly disgusting and makes me distance myself