A little background would be my husband and I have been together for over 15 yrs but only married for 16 months. I brought a daughter into the relationship and my husband had 2 sons. We lived seperately alot during the first 12 yrs. The 'boys' are now 22 and 21. The 22 yr old has a 3 year old daughter (his gf was only 15 when she gave birth) who he doesn't support. He is unemployed and has been fired from every job he has had. He lost his license and doesn't like to ride a bike to look for jobs because he "gets hungry or thirsty".