great advice from wonderful
friend and therapist. DH has been inundated with phone calls and emails from BM since judge decided to give Joint custody two weeks ago. Advised by friend to only reply once a week to ones that are necessary. Just print off the emails when come in, then set aside one hour on Sunday evening to respond with short one sentence message to any. Any that are just gibberish or nonsens lies, don't respond to BM,just write own reponse to what happened and staple to original email in case litigates again. Has anyone else tried this?
Also was suggested that "reasonable access" on phone is not outlined in our order. We can say due to school starting and SD16's busy life with school, studying, work, etc.. we are goin to have two days a week that she calls BM to chat---Wed and Sun nights at 9pm. Anyone else tried this as well?
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That sounds very reasonable.
I think so much in orders is left up to each person's interpretation of "reasonable" and such.
You just doing what sounds best for SD should hold up in Court if it is ever an issue. BM's desires to talk to SD are not necessarily going to be in SD's best interest.
I really like the email plan. That should prevent her from being able to whine that she is ignored, but still giving you guys some peace most of the time. And printing off the emails as well as documenting the truth will save you much time and work later if you need it for court.
Good luck, and please keep us up on how BM handles it.
"It could be better... or it could be worse. For now, it just is..."
-Colorado Girl-
I think
at the age of 16, SD should be able to call her BM whenever she wants. Does she have a cell phone? Now if BM is inundating SD with calls about nothing, then you might have to step in.