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SD's awful behavior during a funeral

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Submitted by porcelian-doll on Wed, 07/31/2013 - 5:08pm

DH's aunt passed and we attended her funeral this morning. Throughout the whole memorial service SD was texting and laughing on her cell phone and DH had to take it away. I shed a few tears because although I didn't know her well I knew her and I empathized with DH's pain. SD leaned over and asked me why I was crying because I didn't even know her. I ignored SD. SD grew up with this woman so I could not believe how self centered she was acting at her funeral. She actual leaned over to DH who was clearly upset and asked him when do we eat.

DH went with the close relatives on a boat ride to spread her ashes at sunset. SD is grounded. I can't even be around her I can't believe how she acted she should be ashamed but I'm sure she is not.

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Submitted by Starla on Wed, 07/31/2013 - 5:36pm

I'm so sorry for your guy's loss. (((HUGS)))

One thing struck me about your SD's reaction, please correct me if I'm way off here. Does she have some type of personality disorder or maybe some type of autism by chance? Is it common for her to not cry or appear sad when she should? Just asking bc I do the same thing too but I'm actually crying on the inside though I appear happy on the outside. Most everybody does not understand it bc it is not the norm that others would expect. In my case, I have learned to act sad for others benefit when sure I'm sad but what shows on the outside is now a staged behavior for me. My brothers called me bad names for laughing bc my parents were getting divorced. I was hurting bad on the inside over it and I wasn't the "heartless bitch" that they called me bc I was laughing.

Another example, my bio mom laughed while giving birth to all 3 of us kids. She was in pain though...

Guess I would suggest that she gets help if she isn't already. Again, I'm sorry for your loss.

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Submitted by Bossladee on Wed, 07/31/2013 - 8:18pm

Sorry for y'all's loss.

Also sorry your SD is such a snot. Maybe she does have some sort of personality disorder, but surely that doesn't excuse just being out and out rude. If she's old enough for a cell phone, she's old enough to know when it's completely and utterly inappropriate to use it. Her questioning your emotions for the loss of a human life, period, much less someone you knew and your DH was family with, is appallingly rude! Asking her father anything other than 'do you need a tissue?' or 'are you ok?' Or just saying 'I love you' is terribly self centered and, again, rude. Shame on her!!

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Submitted by Starla on Wed, 07/31/2013 - 8:38pm

Excellent point " Her questioning your emotions for the loss of a human life, period, much less someone you knew and your DH was family with, is appallingly rude!" and I have never done that. Sounds like she needs more discipline and physiological help.. :?