MIL GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO HOMMMMMMMMMMME!

I had a verbal disagreement with MIL. I was walking firm the nursery to my room breastfeeding DD. DO you know how much of an achievement it is to hold a baby in one arm breastfeed while squatting and searching for baby wipes. I pat myself on the back for that. MIL comes up behind me from out of nowhere.

MIL: Porcelian dear. I thought we discussed you know the breastfeeding thing. I would like if you keep that private.

ME: I would like if you kept your thoughts private. I'm breastfeeding my daughter in my house I'm not harming anyone.

MIL: Well excuse me for not wanting to see you breast. Breast feeding is a beautiful thing but at least be private and have some decency when you have guest.

Me: You can barely see my breast and I for one don't feel wrong about feeding my child anywhere anytime especially in my own home. If you don't like it don't look.

MIL: don't get snippy with me. I am your husband’s mother. I would like to think your mother taught you respect for your elders.

Me: Yes and she always taught me not to stand by and let someone disrespect me.

MIL: Wow well aren't we snippy. I will just leave then. I think I need to have a talk with my son.

ME: Phones in the kitchen MIL.

DH took her out to lunch to talk while she cries to him about how his wife is such a big Meany. He promised me he would talk to her about respecting me. I'm tired. I have other things to deal with in my life. I don't need this. Either she gets a hotel room or I will.

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LOL my dad is a surgical

LOL my dad is a surgical nurse and after I had DD, he was in the room with me and the lactation consultant! It was a little weird but he was so excited about it all, I didn't care. He still is saying that he wants to be a lactation consultant to this day.

lol I'm not that balsy. She

lol I'm not that balsy. She is here to visit and spend time with her newest grand child. I can't wait until monday.

OMG!! Good for you!! Time to

OMG!! Good for you!! Time to start walking around the house in a nursing Bra and popping those boobies out at every whimper baby makes! }:)

Yes, it's inappropriate to

Yes, it's inappropriate to breast feed your child in the mall while that naked 10 ft tall model looms overhead because, duh, breasts are for men.

I'm a huge breast feeding advocate and I can't wait for people to catch up to the times.

OMG - I'm afraid I'd have

OMG - I'm afraid I'd have torn her a new one!!!

NO-ONE would be ever telling me to go feed my baby in a freaking bathroom!

That is disgusting and she would be copping a full serve whoever the F she was.

Bloody cheek.

My MIL was the same way, she

My MIL was the same way, she bottle fed her kids so she was anti-breastfeeding, it made her so uncomfortable - but in my own home - you don't like it, get a hotel and stay somewhere else, I am breastfeeding.

She was always telling me the baby wasn't getting enough milk and how the baby was missing things - this is the same woman who gave me a book to read when I got pregnant about pregnancies that had photos of xrays of babies in the womb.... oh my - lol

Crazy, in your own home.

Wow...why does your DH

Wow...why does your DH continue to let the women in his life disrespect you?

He needs to take MIL and dump her at the nearest hotel. He can spend time with her there, or bring her over for an hour or so here and there. You know she is not going to stop being a snot. And I don't think DH is not going to make her stop.

I like that idea! You have

I like that idea! You have had great answers to your MIL's meddling Porcelein. Diplomacy is the key and the next time your MIL wants to try to tell you what you can or can't do in your own home, answer back with, "MIL, since this makes you so uncomfortable, would you like me to get a hotel room for the remainder of your visit because I do not plan on not feeding my baby girl as needed just because you're not okay with it".

I agree with Willow - DH

I agree with Willow - DH needs to take MIL and dump her at a hotel. I remember when my late mother came to stay after my elder daughter was born - I was breastfeeding her on demand. Mum kept making remarks like "you're not feeding her AGAIN?" She lived hundreds of miles away, but I insisted she go home after 3 days - I couldn't cope with her.

Better you then me - I'd be

Better you then me - I'd be walking around topless all day long - just in case DD got hungry.

You're a lot nicer than I

You're a lot nicer than I would have been.

MIL - If you don't like it, the door is right there. Don't come back until DD has been weaned. Have a nice day.

Asshat.

Seriously.....I freaking hate people like this.

ETA - Truly.....I would call the La Leche League and ask them to have a breastfeeding fest in your livingroom while she is there.

YOWZA!

Way to go porcelain She is

Way to go porcelain She is acting way out of line and surely not the guest that she is. I can't help but to wonder if she is secretly against breastfeeding.. :? You handled it like a pro, keep it up if she tries to pull that again. Even elders know that if they don't like what they see, they can leave.

You handled that SOOO well!

You handled that SOOO well! Queen of the Comebacks!

I agree with simifan - start walking around topless. Hopefully she'll leave.

why would MIL think that

why would MIL think that "tattling" on you to her son would make any difference what-so-ever. i'm praying your dh put her in her place! sounds like she needs a lesson on who the #1 woman is in his life now. don't like that dh pandered to her by taking her out to dinner, but as long as she gets the message, whatever. if he simply kisses her ass and comes back blaiming you, I would never allow that woman to step foot in my house again for an over-night. she can get a hotel. my MIL learned this lesson the hard way, and we're hunky dory now.

I breast feed both of my

I breast feed both of my kids. BS had to stop early do to asthma and having to sit almost upright to eat. Was at my bros house with dd when she was 8 months old. Was feeding her on his couch. He went and got a blanket came over and covered me. Said sorry sis but don't want to know you that well. We laughed and I covered while in his home.
You are in your home and she is following you around to see if you are breaking her rules??? She needs to go. Stressed mama is not good for baby