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"It's SMs fault I am the way I am"

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Submitted by porcelian-doll on Mon, 04/22/2013 - 8:34am

DH begged me to go to a dinner with him and SD14. He has been so depressed lately and we have discussed him going to counseling. He admitted to me that he has been so depressed with the falling out between SD and I and that he feels torn between the two women that he loves. After a long conversation and looking into his puppy dog eyes I agreed to go to this dinner.

It played out with SD telling me she is sorry for the way she has treated me in the past. I accepted her apology and DH looked relieved and happy. He commended SD on her adult behavior. “I am happy my two best girls are getting along”. We all ate in silent bliss. I went to the restroom and when I returned I overheard SD telling DH that if he had never met me none of this would have happened and they would still be close and that it’s my fault she is the way she is. I bit my tongue and sat back down. SD thinking I did not hear her went back to her fake nice talk. After dinner I wanted to say something to DH about it but decided not to. He has been in such an emotional slump lately he doesn’t need me making more drama. I won’t be agreeing to anymore dinners anytime soon .He can spend all the time with SD he wants outside the house and if he so badly wants her to come over I am fine with staying somewhere else. How messed up is it that SD blames me for her behavior.

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Submitted by MotherTrucker on Mon, 04/22/2013 - 9:34am

^^^ I agree. My SD responds better to me correcting her bad behavior towards me then she does if her dad corrects her. She gets all pouty and upset if he does it and she will actually tell me that she is sorry if I call her out. I think when DH does it for SD saying something aimed directly at me, she sees him as "picking my side". When I do it, she sees it as me not tolerating the behavior and DH doesn't need to be invovled, unless SD decides to keep at it, and then he will say something so she knows we all mean business. Pick your battles, so to speak.

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Submitted by misSTEP on Mon, 04/22/2013 - 10:17am

Nice that she apologized. Too bad she didn't mean it. Too bad Daddy Dearest can't see that makes her a two-faced liar.

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Submitted by Starla on Mon, 04/22/2013 - 1:03pm

Wow that is awfully low and sad of SD! So sweet of you above all to see your DH's perspective, sure does take a person with a good heart to be that supportive/strong. Many of us ladies here would of went off the deep end at that point. Good to hear about seeking help bc yea he can use it now but he will need it when he learns or sees what SD is really about.