I was so floored by this news yesterday that I didn't elaborate on the issues that caused me to be so flummoxed.

1. BM is a huge hypochondriac.

As a matter of fact, it's so bad that when DH was married to her, the emergency room had classified her as a frequent flyer.

2. We recently sent BM legal documentation that we didn't want her sex-offender convicted and registered boyfriend anywhere around SS12.

3. She did not send SS12 a Christmas gift or card.

4. She rarely calls SS12.

5. She lives over 1000 miles away.

6. DH has full custody of SS12.

7. BM pays no support because she is "on disability."

8. SS12 is autistic, high functioning, and has had a lot of mental illness issues to deal with in the past 2 years but is finally coming through like a trooper!

9. I have been the mother figure to SS12 since he was 8.

10. If something happens to DH (who has MS and Autism and a brain injury), as it stands now, SS12 would legally be required to live with BM.

11. I will be damned if that happens.

So that's why if she wants to sign over her rights to him, cancer or not, I am all for it. SS12 has had a hell of a life, between her leaving them in the middle of the night, to her public suicide attempts, to her leaving again in the middle of the night, to her constant drama. With me, I try to keep it totally drama free. I am his disciplinarian and his Momma.
DH says I give him the right amount of strictness and affection. I try to be a good Momma. It's not easy. But I do. And I love that little, noisy, fit throwing, minecraft playing, hyperactive, bipolar (thankfully under control), silly little monkey.