My sons with dh are currently 3 (almost 4) and 9 months. Mil has never met either one of them. We offered her tickets to come meet bs3 when he was born and her response was " just use that money to send SD up to me for a visit instead." She's taken many trips in the nearly 4 years since....just never to meet her grandsons. We send SD and SS up to her about once a year. Last year they spent mos of the summer with her. She had to have spent thousands of dollars on shoes and clothes for them...but not one thing came back with them for our boys.

I was just researching tickets and found a good deal to send the skid up to her again and called to tell dh to check with his mom that she wants them again. Last year they paid for half of sd's ticket ( but not ss's) so I asked him to see what she wanted to do this year. Since the ticket prices were so low it makes more financial sense for someone to fly with the kids instead of paying the unaccompanied minor fee. So dh confirms with me that the plan was for him to go up with them and go pick them up. I said yeah, unless your mom wants us to buy her a ticket to pock them up or bring them back so she can meet the boys. But if she still has no interest then I guess you'd have to go both times. He said he'd ask her to see what she wants to do...

Somehow I know that her answer is going to be that she doesn't want to come down. If she hasn't made the slightest of effort to meet her grandson in 4 years, I doubt shed start now.