I want to take my kids to a Christmas event that is every weekend from now til Christmas. The problem is that it runs from 6-11pm, and I watch the skids for Dh on Friday and Saturday because he works.

I can't got on a Sunday while Dh can watch the skids because BS has school the next day and I can't have him out til 10pm and them have him up by 6 the next morning for school. So that leaves only Fri or Sat as option. But I will not take the skids with me. They act like total jack asses for me. I wont be able to enjoy myself if they come. Took them to a night event as the zoo for Halloween and they ran off from me twice, in the dark. They complained and fought the entire time. Not doing that again.

My original thought was, oh too bad guess we just won't go. But the skids have been such utter turds the past two weeks, and BS has been so well behaved. I am tired of us.missing out on things because of them. We end up as shut one every weekend because I can't take these kids anywhere. Tried taking them to the park last weekend because I felt bad cooling BS in the house all day again and it was a complete disaster. The highlight, and what caused us to leave shortly after arriving, was them deciding that a great game to play was having another younger kid run by them on the swings and try to kick him. With SD screaming I am going to break your back, pretend I broke your back, haha you will never walk again.

So now I want to tell him to make other plans for his kids that night. How much time is fair to give him to find someone to watch his kids over night? Two weeks?

My only concern is that he really doesn't have any options of where to send them. They are so difficult that no one will watch them other than in an emergency situation. Tue in laws has taken them over night in hw past, but haven't offered in over six months. Dh isn't on good terms with them right now, and if he asked them to babysitter it will look like a ploy to get Christmas gifts. So is it unfair to Dh to even ask him to findbsomewhere else for them?

I hate that I am constantly in this position....either screw over my kids and myself, or have to screw over Dh being selfish to do something I enjoy....all because of the skids.