Although my DH is still in touch with his kids, they have been alienated.  His relationship is through text, gifts, and money.  Before he and BM (50 shades of cray) divorced, he did everything for them.  He came home from work, made dinner, gave them baths, read books, and put them to bed.  Their mother was consumed with her job and devoted most of her time to that.  On the weekends, he took them places and devoted all of his time to them.  When we moved in together, we took them extra weekends because the ex needed to work- 3 out of 4 weekends each month, and had them almost every day in s