I married a man later in life. He has 3 grown children, all in their 30's. One lives with us. He is disabled military but not civillian. He is late 30's and sits in his room all day playing video games. He has to be reminded to take trash out. He is supposed to mow but often procrastinates. His father has given me lip services. He praises any little thing he does like he has done something significant. He won't even drive. When anyone confronts him, he explodes or threatens to influence his brothers not to have a relationship with their dad.