I'm 22 weeks pregnant. I was running a fever of 103.2. After 5 hours of little improvement DH took me to the hospital. They got the fever down and had me overnight to make sure everything was fine. They checked me and the baby and said we where fine and its a good thing I didn't ignore the fever. I didn't get to go home until dinner time the next day. I barely got any sleep because I was so worried about the baby even though they told me we where ok I still had a lot going through my mind.

When I got home 3 of the 4 boys rushed to the door wanting to know if I was ok and if they could help me with anything. SS16 kept playing his video game not even looking up. I told him everything was ok. You know what he said to me. " Ok, so are you going to cook dinner"? without even looking up at me. He could have at least shown some compassion. DH told him to turn the video game off for a few minutes until he can get his attitude in check.

When I was in the hospital DH had asked the boys to clean up the house for me. MIL was here with them and she sweetly cleaned up all of the kitchen, did all of the dishes, cleaned the living room and even folded laundry. The boys did not lift a finger. DH checked their rooms after dinner to find mess after mess. He ordered them to go clean up their rooms before turning on any electronic device. When he held out his hand for SS16's phone SS16 marched off to his room. DH followed him red in the face. SS then threw his phone on the floor and told his father to take it. DH pointed out that he cracked the screen and is grounded. He will not be receiving his phone back for some tome. SS's response " I don't really care".

BM agreed to keep up the grounding at her house and to have a talk with him this weekend. I don't think talking to him or punishing him gets through to him. I really can't deal with this right now so I have chosen to disengage.