Once when I was at one of my ssons church events I was reading the 'get to know your fellow church members" folder. DH was talking to friends, no one talked to me so I read up about these people. BM stated her favourite holiday is T/Giving. So as this isn't my holiday (New Zealand doesn't celebrate Thanksgiving which surprises a lot more Americans that you would think!)So I thought ...meh, she can have T/Giving. And so it has been every single year for 10 yrs. The boys decide to go to their mothers and see their grandmother etc... Hey, I can be a nice person.

But this year I am over it. I asked Ysson about T/Giving last weekend. After all it is about 6 weeks away and I want to plan it nicely and have the right amount of food etc. The boy is now 23. I was told "Well oneoffour, Mom doesn't even make up her mind until the weekend before so I can't give you an answer right now." Okey dokey. Wait until your mommy decides when she will cook and where and all the extras. And once again leave your Dad out to see you when you have eaten too much food and just want to snooze on our couch... NAAA wrong answer.

I am issuing an invitation to my kids and DHs sons and whoever RSVPs will be included. Now when you have other family (DD has a MIL and FIL) I understand how it can be difficult and we have to SHARE. However if you cannot cut those apron strings and say "Mom, I will be at Dad's for lunch. Let me know where and when Grandma will be here and I will make sure to be there."

Actually the only one who has said yes is my son. With instructions about what I have to cook which I usually ignore. My DD may be working that day. OSS may be going to his girlfriend's parents place out of town. She is expecting a baby so that is how THAT rolls. But YSS ... I refuse to get angry. It will just keep the food cost down. }:)