Since SS20 has been in his 3/4 house and learning to deal with his alcohol binging etc he has seen us a total of 4 times. He spoke to DH only last Friday and DH mentioned this weekend was my 50th birthday and our wedding anniversary and he was welcome to call by. In fact DH really wanted to see him and even told SS20 so. No party or lots of people, just hanging out at home.

Yep, he would come by. Absolutely.

And again, a no-show. But he was able to hang out at his mother's place 5 miles away all day.

I am so done with this kid. I don't care about my birthday. I aren't his mother and he owes me nothing. I get that. But damnit, he OWES his father for putting his ungrateful arse on this planet. He wasnt born in a freaking testube! He wasn't the immculate conception. His father did nothing wrong. Not a damned thing. He bailed his arse out of jail, he got him a good lawyer, he visited him in jail (I went once and NEVER again. My family work on the other side of the bars!), helped him with car repairs.... and his father ASKS him to drop by on Sunday and he doesn't bother.

Oh wait, that's right. His father married me who makes him accountable and didn't put up with his bullshit. Hence his bailing out of his father's world and the downward spiral.
I guess that is my fault as well! Sorry kid, I don't care whether you are here or not but do NOT diss my husband! You can bleat all you want about doing the right thing and on the road to getting your life straightened out. But when you bail on your father AGAIN and spend most of your downtime with your mother .... you are full of shit and I will not believe a word out fo your lying lips.