Hi All, I couldn't believe I found this site. At least I know I'm not alone. I do have a little bit of a different situation though. I am married to a widowed man with two sons, ages 20 and 17. Their mother died of cancer 7 years ago. We have been together 4 years, married 1 year. The 20 year old SS is absolutely wonderful! He could have been my own. I try and do treat them both like they are my own. My husband who is retired military was very hard on his oldest son. Very strict.