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ohiknow's picture

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Slightly confused on what to do with BM.

Lately BM has been super nice. I mean SCARY nice, overly polite, friendly, the whole nine yards (with the occasional small "lets talk about getting back together" thrown in). It has actually been kinda unsettling with how nice she is, but we've been friendly right back.

ANYWAYS.

SS went to detention today for something along the lines of having incomplete work and falling asleep in class. Now this has been a pretty constant problem. When he is picked up from school (after spending night at BM's) he is often in the same clothes from the day before, not showered, and EXHAUSTED. I'm not kidding, on the days we pick up both SS's they sleep ALL DAY.

SS's say that they have no bedtime at BM's and often times go to sleep at midnight or past that. BF is pissed (obviously). He wants to call up BM and chew her out a new one. As much as I would LOVE for him to do this, I know it won't solve anything. She will only turn it around to be his fault ("well they can't sleep because we're divorced"), she won't accept the responsibility and chew him out in return. I definitely think something needs to be said....but What?

Anyone out there had any similar situations like this?

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ohiknow's picture

No. (I probably should have mentioned that)

Well, the older one is old enough to tell time, but honestly what young elem. school child is going to stop playing video games and go "Wow, its really time for me to go to sleep".

ddakan's picture

i've seen this, in the end the kid will suffer because of her lack of skills. my 17 yo ss fell behind in high school, she didn't tell us until now. we tried to help. he was supposed to be a senior and he was barely a jr. in credits. make sure they are getting all their credits, and if they fall behind, it may be time for a change. the sm never graduated, and she kicked out 2 of our skids went they were 17 and still gets her check. there is no justice just yet.