Hi Everyone,

I had a profile for almost 2 years but recently deleted it because of the slightly unsettling actions of my ex-SO. For anyone who has a photographic memory and might remember me, I am a huge Simpson's fan which was reflected in my name and when we discussed in a thread a looong time ago what our username's meant, a lot of you assumed I lived at my Mother-In-Law's house

I didn't blog often, although I read everyone's blogs obsessivley, and when I did blog it was usually about the "big stuff" and you guys always saved me, gave me wonderful, down to earth advice for which I was so grateful. So here I am again (I just can't stay away from you guys!)

I have to keep things vague, but I am having some issues with my ex-so and unfortunately there are still a few things that still have to be dealt with with him. It's only now that he has turned the full force of his anger on me am I realizing how co-dependent I was in my relationship with him and how much I walked on eggshells and became absolutely enmeshed in his moods. This is a very very hard habit for me to break and now that we are going head to head over a number of things I am finding it so hard to not just dissolve into a whimpering mess. I hate it, it's not like my normal personality. I am letting my anxiety over this control my life.

I need some inspiration form a strong group of women (and men). How do I keep my cool? How do I take back my power? How do I fight that instinctive, Pavolvian response to panic in the face of his anger?

You guys are the greatest. As always, anything you have to share is much appreciated.