LOL I'm sure you all know what I mean by THAT! Hehe...So BF met with his divorce attorney today and played her the tape of the messages that BM had left on our answering machine. Attorney told BF that as much as she hates to say it, BF is going to have to stop avoiding talking to BM in an effort to take some of the stress off of SS. Right now, BM is starving for attention and an answer to her questions. When BF won't take her calls or return her messages or emails, and I have completely cut myself off from her for months, the only person she has to turn to is SS. Right now she's taking all of that anger, frustration, confusion, and curiosity out on SS and he's the one that's having to deal with her behavior and answer all of her questions. BF understands why it's necessary for him to speak to BM at least a LITTLE, but attorney told him to ONLY speak to her about SS and if she starts talking about something else, explain that he won't discuss anything other than SS. If she continues, hang up. She also told him that he has her green light to establish a solid rule on how many times she is allowed to call SS when he is with us. There's no reason for her to call 60 times in a weekend, and attorney encouraged him to put his foot down on that issue.

So when BM started on her daily round of 100 calls, BF politely told her that if she could remain civil and speak only about SS, he'd talk to her. Of course, she immediately began bitching about how bad influences we were. BF hung up on her. They went around like this for a few hours, and eventually she got so mad that she didn't call him for a while. He called her and asked if she was able to speak about SS yet. She screamed "NO!" and hung up. Eventually she called back and they talked about him a little, with BF hanging up on her in appropriate intervals when she began bitching about something else. This evening, when she knew I'd be home, she called back to try to figure out how to give BF back the weekend that she owes him. She basically tried to swindle BF out of the weekend by saying that BF getting SS two weekends in a row, but then letting her have him the next weekend and going back to a regular every other weekend schedule would fix the problem. He tried to explain to her that no matter which way she cut it, he would only be getting him for 3 weekends out of the next 5...in order to make up for the missed time, he'd have to get SS and EXTRA weekend. Of course, this logic is lost on her and she basically called him stupid. He hung up on her again.

At this point she began to get mad, but instead of just letting things be like she did earlier, since she knew I was around, she continued to call back. She would say things like, "I'm not the bitch, I believe the bitch is sitting right there next to you" or "There will be no such thing as DCS coming out to my house, they'll be coming to your house since you're the one sleeping with a whore!" She knows that BF keeps her on speakerphone when he talks to her and she knew I'd hear these things. BF hung up on her multiple times. Then she had SS call, trying to bait him into answering the phone cussing or something, but he didn't. SS said "I called to tell you something..." BF asked him what, but SS never responded. We could hear muffled sounds and whispering. BF called out SS's name multiple times but he never answered, so he hung up.

They're going to court this week over the phone harrassment. What's funny is that it's no better now than it was before she was served the summons to court for the phone harrassment. She's trying to claim that all of BF's evidence is "inadmissable" in court. Her basis is that he brought it to use as evidence against her in another hearing, but the judge told her he didn't need it. This, to her, means the evidence is "tainted" and he can't use it again. WTF? She's just trying to bluff him into showing up to court with no evidence (like she always does). Sorry, lady, but we're prepared and not as stupid as you wish we were...As these are criminal charges, I'm very anxious to see how this court date goes. She will also soon be served with papers for an emergency modification of the parenting plan giving BF full custody and with my restraining order. Our attorey is hoping to serve her with all of these papers at once. It's so nice to have so many people on our side. We really need it.

At one point during the 100 phone calls today, BM accused BF of living in his own reality. BF disagreed, saying that he thought she lived in her own reality, and unfortunately for her, his lawyers and attorneys all lived in his reality with him!