Something that is a small problem now, but I could see as becoming a large problem down the road. Biomom calls and leaves messages every now and then, maybe twice a week or more, asking dh if he'll call and talk to his son about this or that, or most usually that there's this major problem that he needs to call and address. Of course, almost 100% of the time we can assume that what she's claiming is bogus and the kid is completely fine, and there really was no reason or need for the call. Every now and then, though, something that she says in her message hits me and I am pretty sure she's being sincere. Even so, he still doesn't call.

I would almost rather him call all the time than none of the time. I'm afraid that something really bad is going to happen and we'll be convinced that she's just crying wolf again and not call. Though I have a feeling that if something serious happened and he was really needed we'd know it beyond shadow of a doubt, I still worry. I'm also worried about the projection that she's putting onto SS by doing this. I'm sure that he is aware that she is calling asking for a return call and Dad isn't calling back. Even though her calls are 99% bogus and she never has any real emergency, I still feel like she's presenting the situation such that it is flipped around and dh is the bad guy.

Am I just being paranoid, or could this be a real problem?