I had been trying to get through to her that things would be much easier if she would work with me instead of against me. When she would send me spiteful emails I would respond in an encouraging and positive way, explaining that this type of behavoir makes things harder and I am willing to cooperate with her to make things easier if she can basically get over herself and do the same. She spoke with a friend of hers (who happens to be a neutral party and therefore also a friend of mine), who told her that I was right. He and I both have been put through as a child what she is doing to her son, me, and my bf. I am so glad that someone whose opinion she trusts is reinforcing what I've been saying all along!

Since their conversation she has been much easier to get along with. After the last visitation I didn't get a single nasty email or phone call! The last time she talked to me to ask something about ss she was very civil and polite. I don't know if this is permanent, but I really hope so!