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Submitted by no1smaid on Sat, 01/15/2011 - 9:11am

Saturday, my one day to sleep in all week.

DH left to have a guys day with his friends at about 8am. I heard him leave. At 8:02 the skids are at my bedroom door banging on it, waking me up to ask if they could have breakfast?!?

These kids are 17,15,13,12.

1) They have NEVER had to ask for food and are aware that they can simply go eat.
2) Their dad just left!! They couldn't ask him before he left, 2 minutes earlier!?!

Oh and the kicker. Once I got out of bed and chewed them out, I was basically informed, well since your up early you can take us to the library.

I feel another manicure coming on!!

And hell no, I am not taking them to the library. You do not wake me up, to convenience yourself!

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simifan's picture

Submitted by simifan on Sat, 01/15/2011 - 4:43pm

I aggre, I'd be on the phone with DH & tell him apparently his little darlings can't function without him so he needs to come home.

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Submitted by no1smaid on Sat, 01/15/2011 - 7:27pm

17 yo can drive. However is grounded from everything, which includes the car, the keys to the car etc. And would have to ask my permission to borrow my truck even if she weren't grounded. Her dad and I refuse to buy her a vehicle, she has to purchase her own first car.

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Submitted by buttercookie on Sat, 01/15/2011 - 9:27am

I'd be pissed too, I'm sure they are capable of fixing themselves breakfast, getting you up was their plan to get a ride. Obviously they know how to walk, tell them to put their shoes on and start walking.

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Submitted by ddakan on Sat, 01/15/2011 - 9:28am

What the hell was dad thinking have a guys day on his skids weekend?????

Somebody needs an ass chewin real bad!!!

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Submitted by buttercookie on Sat, 01/15/2011 - 9:31am

I think they live there all the time and I think he was fine in taking a day for himself. The kids are all old enough to get their own breakfast, the library is a ploy for them to get out of the house since they've been in trouble I'd be wondering who they plan on meeting and if they plan on staying at the library. I'd go back to bed and I'm sure if they want to read there are books in the house or they can bring their school books home next weekend.

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Submitted by no1smaid on Sat, 01/15/2011 - 7:29pm

Yes, all four live here 24/7/365. I can definately understand DH needing a guy day, just as he understands my need on occasion for retail therapy to destress Smile

It just annoyed me that literally the garage door hadn't stopped vibrating from closing behind him and they were pounding on my door to wake me up with an assenine(sp?) question.

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Submitted by sherrilyn821 on Sat, 01/15/2011 - 10:13am

i was also woke up at 8:00, 9yr old sd. Time to get up dad!! DAD!!!DAD!!! ugh!!! bdsays turn on tv, GUESS WHAT OUR TV!!! So told them they could have room and went to my daughters room since she actually goes to her dads for visitation and went back to sleep. Just tired of sd running the family. dh feels sooooooooo guilty over missing mom-crazy bitch-but sd needs some discipline!!! used to got to bm once or twice a week,,, since we got married bm just drinks and does pills(well worse, she already did). Am trying my best but my nerves r frazzled.

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Submitted by no1smaid on Sat, 01/15/2011 - 7:22pm

I took a page out of DH and Paw Paw's book. I refused to drive them to the library, they could wait until their dad got home and tell HIM they woke me up 2 minutes after he left.

We have an elderly couple that lives on our street, so as their punishment for waking me up early and to work off all that early morning energy they had, I sent them down the street. Had a chat with the neighbors and explained why my skids were suddenly volunteering to help with yard work. Mr.V thought it was quite funny. The boys cleared his yard, cleaned his gutters and helped with any hard work around the house, the girls spent three hours washing windows for Mrs V and dusting ceiling fans etc.

Mr and Mrs V told the kids to come back when they weren't in trouble and they would be happy to pay them to help out around their house that there was some stuff he and she were just no longer able to keep up with. Kids eyes lit up then. They suddenly realized that there were 3 other elderly couples on the street they could also 'help'. I explained most elderly couples are on fixed incomes and can not afford to pay much if anything for help. Kids shrugged it off and informed me if they offered to pay great, if not they would still do the work.

They ended up doing odd ball chores for a few of the neighbors for most of the day. When their dad got home they had to explain to him they pissed me off due to waking me up and when he was about to issue punishment I piped up with my own punishment had already been issued and what it was. He was totally fine with it. Although he did end up going down to Mr V's house. Apparenty he needed an oil change and skid#2 couldn't remember how to do it, DH took him down there, showed him how so now when Mr V needs an oil change he will let skid#2 do it and pay him for his time.

The kids payoff for today? Mrs V sent them home with chocolate chip cookies she made. Mrs N on the corner sent them home with fresh out of the oven cornbread. The kids mentioned at dinner this evening it was as if they had picked up 4 new sets of grandparents today with all the folks on the street. What impressed me was at dinner when one of the kids asked "Why don't these peoples kids come and help them? They are too old to do all this stuff and their kids never come around."

It is amazing, there are days I want to kill them, but within a few hours they can swing back into place and make me wonder if they will actually turn out to be decent human beings after all.

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Submitted by Butterflykisses... on Sat, 01/15/2011 - 7:52pm

I would say by teen experience that they all were trying to "play you" but it looks as if you had it under control. Wink

"Mr and Mrs V told the kids to come back when they weren't in trouble and they would be happy to pay them to help out around their house that there was some stuff he and she were just no longer able to keep up with. Kids eyes lit up then. They suddenly realized that there were 3 other elderly couples on the street they could also 'help'. I explained most elderly couples are on fixed incomes and can not afford to pay much if anything for help. Kids shrugged it off and informed me if they offered to pay great, if not they would still do the work."