So I know I have vented before about DH's family. Well here we go again:

I guess you can say we were having a "couple" night with his aunt, uncle, grandmother, and grandfather. All the men were grilling outside, which left me inside with the ILs. They were asking me about the wedding, which is in little over a month and a half. I politely answered their questions. When I went shopping for my dress, I only took my mother and sister. My maid of honor lives out of state. For some reason his family felt they should have been invited and it hurt their feelings they weren't included. It was nice to just spend the day with my mother. Why they couldn't understand that was beyond me. Then they went on to ask me about the flower girl. Originally, I had wanted SD to be the flower girl. But after several discussion with the future hubby, we both decided she was still a bit young (1 1/2) and it really wouldn't be worth the fight with BM. So I asked a friend if her little girl would be up for the job. Well that just seemed to offend his grandmother and of course his aunt went on the defense for the BM...saying how hard it would be for her that SD was included in OUR big day when she is single. blah blah blah....thats pretty much what I hear. Then his aunt really sent me into orbit. DH gets SD every Wed, but since we are going to be on our honeymoon, he was going to request to have it be moved to that Fri (the CO states that as long as we give a 2 weeks notice for change in visitation, she has to oblige) anyway, the aunt decides she wants DH's visitation day and states she is just going to ask BM if she can have SD that Wed instead. Um..HELLO....I quickly stated that maybe rather than assuming DH would just want to give up a visitation day, she needed to ask him first rather than go straight to BM. His aunt's reply: "Well I know BM will let me keep her....plus at least she will be with DH's family on that visitation day"...my simple reply "That's not what I said. You need to speak with DH first. It's his day, his decision if he wants to just hand it over to you." She got mad and didn't really talk to me the rest of the night. But I am so sick of them doing that. Completely not caring how DH feels or his opinion on the matter. DH later asked me after we got home what the tension was about and I told him. He was pissed needless to say. And i told him as kindly as I could that I was almost to the point of not wanting anything to do with them. I mean what other options so we have