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Putting Myself First

newstepmom2008's picture

I've absolutely had it up to my eyeballs with this whole screwed up mess! I'm tired of how DH shows no consideration to me and I'm tired of how BM and the oldest skid has treated me.

I have decided that I will no longer be spending any extra money on the skids. I also quit picking up the messes they leave all over the house and yard! I warned them during the last two visits...you better keep your stuff picked up or the dog will chew it up! Well I reminded them 3 times to pick their toys up out of the yard. Guess what they ALL ignored me. I told them, they better be put up before you leave b/c I'm not picking them up. Well guess what they left them there and I've let the dog use them as her chew toys! (They are cheap toys -- total of about $10) But I've been moaning for a year that I'm not the nanny or the maid -- no one has listened. I bet they will start now!

Further more DH is in the dog house! He didn't even bother to buy me a card for our anniversary. I know money is tight but good grief! There was NO ROMANCE, nothing but thanks for the nice meal. He didn't even offer to clean up the mess! I literally cooked for HOURS! Then when it came time for bed he started coughing and honestly I just wanted an excuse to sleep on the couch b/c I was so hurt. He said he was sorry, and I retorted, "I really don't care." Of course he wanted to know what that meant and I said, "you really hurt my feelings." He tried to give me some excuses and I told him to save it, that it took no money to get a piece of notebook paper and write a thoughtful note.

This morning he told me to look in the bedroom. Of course there was a note. My thoughts are that it's too late. It doesn't count when I tell you to do it! I know I sound so mean but I'm just sick of being DH's and the Skid's whipping post. The final straw was when DH kicked my dog! What kind of a jerk kicks a dog for dribbling water on them!

So from now on the dog and I are first. I'm furious b/c I've wasted my last good years for having a baby on this jerk.

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livinthedream's picture

Ive learned the hard way...that sk's dont listen, dont care & its best to lay down the LAW right away in the beginning. Trying to be their friends only backfires. So take a nice bubble bath & walk the dog ...just get out & enjoy your life...I AM!!

newstepmom2008's picture

Oh there are solid boundaries -- I don't budge. I'm nice to the skids and I do love them, but they know darn well not to pull the crap with me that they do with their mother. BM thinks I'm too hard on them, but when I was their age and my mother said, "put your toys up" I knew to do it! I don't expect them to think to do it on their own, but I do expect them to follow directions!

If BM wants to be their maid fine, but I'm not going that route!

newstepmom2008's picture

What a joke! I didn't even get any mention of Mother's Day! I even had to buy his mother and grandmother the cards! This weekend is Father's Day and guess what -- I'm not doing anymore for him than he did for me! In fact, I'm going down and spending the weekend with my father! He can watch the skids all by his lonesome!