Man I hate when I get like this. Things were going so well SO was really doing well with boundaries and stepping up. He seemed to be handling things and being strong where SD's and BM were concerned. Now I realize it was not all he made it out to be. I think that his passive personality that made him be their doormat in the first place is still alive and well. This weekend was a real eye opener for me. First of all SD was home all weekend long and did absolutely nothing that I could see. This morning when she left her room was a mess, she left her mess all over the house, laundry not folded. My house was spotless on Friday (that is the day the housekeeper comes) so all it takes is all of us to pick up after ourselves to keep it that way untill the next Friday. Or should I say me and SO who picks up after SD. He talked the big talk about how he was going to have her do chores and keep her room clean. He didn't do squat, and I kept my mouth shut DISENGAGE was my motto this weekend. I ran errands and when I was home I was reading in my room with the door closed. If not SD would have been at my side because she was bored. So I get an email from the club leader asking about SD because she missed two meetings last week which means she is either going to be kicked out or if there is a valid reason she will be on the verge of being kicked out. I don't respond but forward it to SO and remind him that he has to call BM regarding SD missing club meetings last week.

Oh yeah he says I will do that. So hours go by and he hasn't done it then I notice he is outside smoking so I go outside and he says oh I called BM. I said oh ok. Then he says SD didn't go to the meetings because she was sick (this means that SD was sick all week long at BM's and into last week at our house) which BM did not take her to the Dr she just let her miss meetings and school. I let it go but inside I am just irritated. Then he says oh and she also didn't take her because she didn't know about it. So I need to call her back and let her know when the meetings are this week and make copies of the stuff we have and take it to her :jawdrop: Really!! Really!!! Fucking Really!!!!! I just about lost my mind. I said why don't you just go wipe her ass while your at it. He looks at me like What??? I mean after all this time of hearing him say how he is no longer going to babysit her it takes one phone call and its back to the same old shit. SO hasn't a clue on why I could possibly be upset. This is how our convo went.

Me--Wasn't the issue that you were going to address the fact that she didn't take her and where SD stands now with membership.
SO--Well I did but how can she take her when she doesn't know about it?
Me--She can't get the information herself?? SD has been in the club for 6 months now and BM has no clue about any of it??? The same woman who told me that she is involved 110% in everything that SD does??
SO--Well she didn't know so if I don't tell her then she won't take SD
Me--Ok then you have it figured out you can just be the meeting reminder for BM since she is incapable of finding anything out on her own
SO--I don't want to do that
Me--Then why are you doing it??
SO--I'm not doing it I am just letting her know about the meeting and taking her the paperwork. It is for SD's sake that I am doing this not for BM
Me--Really?? You just keep telling yourself that SO

He is so freaking clueless sometimes I just want to smack him upside the head }:)