OMG I could have written this! I also have an SD13 who cannot do ANYTHING on her own ever! Even if she is invited to a friend's just like you said, Newstep, she wants to stay with us because she doesn't want to miss out on what we're doing - the "adult" stuff. She tries to chime in on conversations we're having with family or friends but she has no idea what's really going on so it doesn't make any sense and everyone just sits there uncomfortably until someone else changes the subject. It's funny because I literally use those exact words "up my ass" when I talk about her...she seriously lives up my ass when she's here, or my DH's, though his patience is shorter than mine and he usually tells her he's had enough fairly quickly, or anyone else's who have the grand misfortune to happen to be in her presence at the time.

In the summer when we were on vacation on our boat, there was a night where we weren't doing anything, just literally sitting out back on the boat in the dark (when you're anchored out you don't use electricity unless you need to) doing absolutely nothing and not even talking (we enjoy the peace and quiet when we can get it), and we figured that she would eventually get bored and go find something in the cabin to do...but nope! She brought 3 fairly large suitcases of stuff to keep her occupied (for the 4 days she was there with us) but didn't even open one. She sat out there in the dark, just staring at us as we stared out at the water for 3 hours! She didn't move until my DH finally told her to get ready for bed.

She literally has to be told that it's time to give people a break because she latches onto them and usually talks their ears off until they are ready to scream. At least that night she wasn't talking cause she finally understood one unspoken social cue, but she still doesn't get that someone smiling at you or saying hi is not an invitation to glue yourself to them and not let them take a breath by themselves for the rest of the day. Right now DH is upstairs painting the hallway and you can guess she's talking his ear off. I'm just waiting to see how long he can put up with it before he tells her to scram and let him concentrate or even hear one of his own thoughts...

I swear when I first read that post my immediate thought was OMG this is me!! I seriously considered the thought that I had sleep-posted this hahaha!

My 13-year-old girl does that too. Every other child in the in-law family always sat in the living room at dinners, but not SD, no they make sure she sits at the adult table and her nose is so far up all the adult business that it is repulsive. She will interrupt and ask "what does that mean", "who", "they did what?" every five minutes. Most times, I tell her none of her business leave the room, but its more difficult at the in-laws as they are so actively including her and look at me like I am mean the time I told her to go sit with the kids. UGH.

From now on, my business will never be discussed with in-laws in front of SD again. She eats it up way too much. She LURVS drama. Why wouldn't she if she is being included. I was the same way, I wanted to be in the middle of all the adult stuff at 13 and I did the same stuff, but I was sat in the TV room until I was a lot older at family functions.

Why is it that some kids want to be all up in the adults' business? I never wanted to stick around and listen to my parents' conversations. I don't even remember any of my friends or family members who would have chosen to stay with the adults rather than be with other kids. What Annanymous said about her SD always nosing in and asking questions about the conversation is spot on with what my SD does. Also, if she feels like what is being said is about her in any way (it isn't), she gets super defensive and tries to argue against it, but it doesn't make sense cause it has nothing to do with her and she's totally misunderstanding!

Today we took SD out shopping for her birthday and we went out for dinner and hung out a bit at home too, but it still wasn't enough...there came a point when it was clear that the "family activities" were done and DH and I just wanted to relax on our own, but she would not take the hint! She had to be told by DH to go take a break. Why does she not understand when it's time for her to go do her own thing? We spent 5 hours shopping for HER, focused on HER! Why does she need to be told EVERY TIME that it's time to chill out then give us that butthurt look?

Even out shopping and at the restaurant she followed so close to me that she kept stepping on my heels, even when I was going to the bathroom (she didn't have to go, she just followed me for no apparent reason - she wasn't even talking to me, just following silently). I called her out on it and her face turned red but she didn't say anything to explain herself. We have talked to her so many times about how clinging onto people just makes them want to be around you less, but she does not get it! BM is like this as a person too, so that must be where SD gets it, but it's intense! I sure hope she grows out of it before she starts trying to date...that kind of neediness is so unattractive!