Is SS coming or isn't he? Are we getting him full-time or just the summer? Argh! I'm soooo sick of BM's back and forth, its actually driving me nuts! I already have anxiety, but I think I'm on the verge of a panic attack or something. I really don't know what to do about it. For those that have been following my situation, you know what's going on. BM has once again decided that she wants to keep SS. This has been going on for at least 3 years. He goes through a rough patch and BM wants to get rid of him and send him here to live with his dad. Then she realizes that she'll miss him and withdraws the offer. BM has sole legal and physical custody. DH won't fight for custody because its too expensive or some other reason. I'm not too sure. I know he just doesn't want to. He wants SS full time, but only if BM hands him over to him on a silver platter. He's more than willing to take SS but just doesn't want to go through the court process. I just wish they would settle this. Its complicated because we live 9 hours away from each other. I've said to DH that we should move closer so that you could at least see him every other weekend. DH says there's no point. BM would have all the control and SS would be messed from BM's influence anyways. Basically DH wants all or nothing. How do you ladies deal with so much unknown in your life concerning the skids? When they come and go? Especially if you're in the middle of a custody battle or going through the court for some other reason. This is not what I imagined my life to be like.