I am so glad you guys are out there. My BF who still lives in house he has let his 32yo BS and his wife and child move in with them paying all bills,never called me today, he withdraws and won't answer phone when he wants to avaoid a topic and then thinks it will just be gone next time.
I called his house phone when he would not answer cell and D inlaw answered with a smug voice saying"he's not here"I am convinced that they are afraid we will get married and they will have to start paying bills ,we already bought a house together but can't seem to get past his 4 adult children's dependancy issues. he did not drink for 14 years becasue he could not handle it now he is drinking at least 4 drinks a day minimmum, but hey why would she care he is generous to them when he drinks and they are constantlt making him a drink or getting him a beer.He is in total denial that he is drinking too much which blows me away becasue he started the AA teen group at our church, shouldn't he recognize the signs?When drunk and unhappytakes it out on me on the phone in front of them and wonders why I think his kids don't respect me, he does not show them respect in front of me.
His kids were poisoned by his ex for years now that she is certifiably crazy and he has has to send her money lately after over20 years of divorce,they have come to dad and when he started his company which thye think was raking in loads of cash immediately(it is not) they draw closer and closer and ask for everything