Wish me luck!

For we're off to face BM.

This trip is going to be stressful, I know that already. 90% because I like my privacy darnit! and 10% because we're going to be dealing with a hyper SD at MIL's house. I adore my MIL, but she's one of the ladies who thinks grandchildren are for spoiling. I don't feel as free laying down the law when I'm not in my own house, but DH will take care of it.

I'm posting from the hotel in Mobile, AL. We're going to loiter for a while, get breakfast, enjoy our privacy and get moving. I am obsessing over this pickup. BM has won, and doesn't even know it. I am obsessing over every tiny aspect of my appearance, and thinking up retorts to possible comments. This is going to be a 5-min drop-off at the freeway exit, for pity's sake!

I suppose it's so I can avoid thinking about the rest of the week, but why, why, WHY am I letting this get in my head?

~Trish

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good luck!!!!

Good luck, you can do

Good luck, you can do it!!!!!!!!! I would do the exact same thing: Obsessing over my looks and thinking up possible retorts. And the looks part is especially unlike me unless I get into a situation like yours. You will be fine and looking back on it like it was so nothing in just a bit.

Fake it til you make it!

Totally ignore.

I just stay in the car and ignore BM. She may want to talk to my H, he gets out of the car to talk to her. My SD9 gets in our car right away and I ask about her week etc. I don't react to her in person, on the phone, or in letters. I just pretend like she doesn't exist----it bothers the crap out of her!! BM complains to H about it constantly!

With you in spirit

I know you will do great!!!

"A lie told often enough becomes the truth." - Vladimir Lenin

All that fuss over nothing

BM gushed over my hair color (probably to make me uncomfortable since I once said I'd rather be dead than a redhead like her) and really made me uncomfortable by pushing her 5 yr old to give everyone (even me) "big hugs!" Which, really - the boy was very shy, and I didn't think it was right to push him like that.

SD stb13 has NOT sprouted up - she's 5'4" if that, and still obese. BM and I were opposed to her reading the Twilight series, BM because it's "unchristian" and me because I didn't want SD to think Bella's behavior was right or anything to be held up as an ideal. Turns out SD has already read the first two and brought the third, which she had been given as a gift. I had a pretty good talk with her about what she thought of Bella's attitude and actions, and I'm satisfied that she isn't going to idealize "giving up everything for true love!!" So, she has my blessing. Her uncle (?!) is a big fan as well, so I've been talking books with him.

MIL is a joy, as always, and SD is on her best behavior. As I've always said, she's not a BAD kid. She's not especially rude or entitled or bratty, but her boundaries aren't well set and she can cop an attitude at times. I guess I have the roughest time when she's in MY house and it's just her, DH, and me. Since we're not, I'm predicting this might be smooth sailing - I'll be posting more if there's drama!

Of course, I'm finding out BM's drama, but it isn't anything that will affect our lives, or at least I hope not.