Bm never sticks to her agreements and no one keeps her accountable. In the court ordered therapy, bm promised dh that if he didn't have work one day, he could call bm and DH could pick up ss from school. Well, dh had the day off on Wednesday, and bm said dh couldn't pick him up. Then she told me and the therapist that she would create a Google voice account so that we could contact each other if we needed to. I set up my account and had fh text bm the number. We have been waiting for days to get the Google voice number back, but we haven't heard anything.

Less than two hours until I sit down face to face with bm and the court appointed therapist. I have had anxiety all day. Dh has been trying to keep me busy but the fact of the matter is, I am nervous. I don't want to do or say anything that will jeopardize dh's custody case. My plan is to sit there and smile and to answer with yes or no questions. Still if she starts screaming at me, I hope I can keep my cool. There is a lot of pent up frustration, hurt, anger, etc. Wish me luck and pray for me.

Do any of your dhs turn into complete sloths whenever football is on? Because mine does. I work my butt off to keep our house clean, take care of our kids, and work part time. Dh works very hard and will help do some very small things around d the house. That doesn't bother me. What bothers me is I spent the day taking care of our two kids and my ss and I still managed to clean the house, cook dinner, and help ss with homework even though dh was supposed to do it. Then I go out with some girlfriends for two hours and I come home and the house is completely upside freaking down!

Are there levels of disengagement? Can you just disengage in situations where bm are involved? Do you have to disengage completely? I need more info please.