The last two weekend SS11 was supposed to go see BM. She called and said she was going to take him to the local fair, get him a ride wristband and give him $50 for games. No call. No show. She told SS this plan.

Last weekend, same thing-going to get him and take him school shopping all day. Crickets. SO texted her yesterday. No response.

I have 1 text from her since court two weeks ago telling me she doesn't need to switch his insurance-he can stay under her Medicaid which I don't fully believe because I work in Medicaid and it doesn't quite work like that. The one day she did come and get him, she asked to send clothing for the weekend because her apartment was being fumigated. She had him for 6 hours and brought him home. He was also expecting to stay with her. Then she came back with some sob story about how he was sad all day because his throat hurt and he was "scared" to tell me. He was sad because he MISSED you and YOU aren't even keeping him over night like you said you would ya butt.

Every time SS complains about not seeing her all summer I find it harder and harder to reaffirm to him that she's "always working" because SO and I work 40+ hour a week jobs and still manage to meet the needs of all 3 kids-one who doesn't even live here/visit here in the middle of this reno.

Tonight at dinner we talked about it. She isn't always working and she needs to make seeing him a priority. Neither SO or I want SS thinking that it's okay to sherk responsibilities because you are busy at work.

I just need to put on my big girl pants and suck it up for his sake but I can't stand seeing SS like this nor can I stand his mother trying to blame it on me.