My baby girl is my everything. My stepson not so much. I want to make him feel apart of the family but when I feel he doesn't want to be then I stop trying. He is just like his mother. Lazy, wants things handed to him, no respect for others you name it. I'm tired of finding poop on the toilet seat (he is 8), I'm tired of the rude attitude towards DH who truly makes sure this kid has all the necessities in life (I'm not talking about toys and garbage) and I'm tired of him acting like he needs to hide from me to get his way.

Our daughter is 3 months old. She is amazing. I know that when she grows up and gets out of hand I can swat her butt for it. If I was the true biological mother for my stepson I would do some wooden spoon time. The kid is treating half like he is 12 and half like a baby with his mother. We treat him the age that he is. When he comes home to us he thinks he can do what he pleases and we will pick up after him and there will be nothing done to him. I'm tired of him not wanting to speak and then whine to DH when I'm in the room but then talk perfectly normal when I'm not around or he thinks I'm not around. He is very immature for his age and this is even coming from the school counselor.

I don't want to give all my attention to my daughter but I'm sick of trying for a kid that basically in my eyes could careless.