"I want to live with mom"
I'm so tired of listening to my ss6 say that he gets toys and has so much fun with BM so he wants to live with her. she hasn't provided for this child since she left when he was a yr and a half old. she doesn't provide insurance for this kid even though he has a hard core medical condition. i have now provided the extra insurance since she only now due to custody hearing start paying bills. my DH and i want to spend the least out of pocket. she doesn't buy clothes and if she does they stay with her. she is what we call the disneyland mom. my DH and i just bought ss6 a swing set for easter. we try to stay away from the candy and toys. ss tells dad that he wants to live with mom because she buys him things and has more fun. I called ss son out and told him to start packing and when spring break drop off happens then he lives with her. we will tell his school goodbye and his friend. this is about the fourth time since ive been around ss has said this. it sucks to hear ss say this because we provide ALL for him. i try to treat this child like my own because i know how it feels to be a stepchild. ss plays both parents and it makes me sick. DH has been a single parent for 4 yrs and went to school. her excuse for not being around is school but she hasn't been around as much since i've come around. she doesn't want me to be financially responsible for the kid because then my DH does it alone and she wins in her eyes. she is now looking for houses closer but has no money to give for child support. bogus right? Ive noticed too that when it's time for the exchange ss6 acts out. he doesn't listen and is obnoxious. i want to haul off on him. BM also wants ss to fly now and spend close to $1000 a month to see him. INSANE. she harasses us and gets on us but doesn't follow the rules.
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MY bio son does the same kind
MY bio son does the same kind of crap. "I'm wanna go live with 'dad'". His bio dad hasnt been in the picture for well over 8-9 yrs in any way shape or form. He does this whenever he gets mad at me or Dh for setting down the law and punishing him. My DH told me if he does it again that he will personnally go to his room and pack it up for him. and set it on the porch and tell him to hit it. I told him "NOPE---I bought everything in his room so its mine he's not taking any of it" lol
OH " she harasses us and gets on us but doesn't follow the rules." there's that double standard kicking in. Our BM does the same shit all the time. it's almost like "her game her rules"but of course when we try to play with her rules she changes them to suit her ---AGAIN and AGAIN.
My SS-18 never played the "I
My SS-18 never played the "I want to go live in SpermLand" card. Never once in the 17yrs that I have been his StepDad.
However, we used to get quite frequent "(SpermIdiot) and (SpermGrandMa) want me to come live with them and that when I turn 8/10/12 that I can choose where I live". My wife finally got sick of their manipulative crap and sat our son down and told him "I have custody of you and I always will have custody and you will life with me until you turn 18. How would you like it if I kept telling you that you could choose not to visit the (SpermClan) anymore when you turn 8/10/12......? I don't tell you that because I do not lie to you. You have no choice but to live with me and you have no choice about visitation."
Quit letting the Skid manipulate, pull out the CO and show him the court order that gives his dad custody and explain that he has no choice but to live with you and his dad because that is the LAW!!!!
The way to fix this kind of crap is with information and facts.
As for BM.... nail her ass to the wall for CS and do not allow her to deviate from the Court Order one little bit. This is the only way to keep her under control and to minimize her manipulation of the Skid.
IMHO of course.
Good luck.