Tonight DH finally stood up to BM! This makes me so happy. We have been together for 8 years, I was his GF immediately after his divorce from cheating Bat Sh*t Crazy BM. We have been married for 3.5 years, so I have experienced everything with him.

Thursday – BM calls DH saying that she has a work thing to attend and meeting at their half way mark at the designated time would be impossible. It’s a 2 hour drive for each BM and DH. BM said that she was coming down this way that evening with her husband for an event and would be willing to drop him off at our house. She said she would be here before 10pm, she also said that she would pick up SS12 from our house on Sunday at 6:30pm. DH agreed to this as long as the missed hours from Friday would be added to Easter weekend. She was reluctant to agree, but my DH said “fine, you can meet me out our pick up location at the CO time”. Knowing that she could not comply with this, she finally agreed.

Friday – They showed up at 10:45pm at our house. BM and DH do not speak unless it’s through text message (usually), so there is written documentation for everything. When SS12 was dropped off, DH texted BM and said; “since you were 45 minutes late you can either pick him up Sunday at 7:15 or add the additional time to Easter weekend”. She texted back saying that all deals are off and now he will just meet her at the half way point on Sunday at 6:30pm. My DH said Nope.

Saturday – no communication from BM

Sunday – DH texted BM at 6pm to give him a 5 minute warning as to when they will be at our house to pick up SS12 to ensure that he was ready. She said that they were at the half way point waiting and that DH “better hurry up”. DH stated that he had no intention on meeting her and that SS12 was waiting for her to come pick him up. That this is what they agreed upon on Thursday. They played texting cat and mouse for two hours and she just sat at the meeting place that is two hours away waiting for us. DH called the police to report that he was not “kidnapping” his child, and explained the situation and got a case number. Police said it was a civil matter and that they would not get involved.

Side Note: BM would have driven almost right by our house to get on the road back to their destination.

BM tried telling DH that she was going to have him arrested for kidnapping, truancy, and unlawful restraint. She is a security guard and completed one semester of college, so “she knows the law”. Finally she got it through her head that we were not meeting her. Then she tried to tell DH that he was going to meet her at a public place of her choosing and that there was no debating on this. After texting back in forth for awhile again, she got it through her head that we were not leaving the house.

11pm she shows up with two police officers. We made her stand outside in the cold while the police officer talk to DH. He explained, and that was it. Nothing else was said from the officer, she just made a comment that it must have been a miscommunication of where the pickup should have been.

DH called the police and asked why they came to the house when they said they would not get involved. I guess BM requested a Domestic Police Escort because she was afraid. REALLY?!?! BM and DH have been doing this for 8 years and there has never been any mention of being afraid. He has never even raised his voice at me when we get into minor arguments. His theory to everything is kill them with kindness.

She is now saying that she is going to deduct this time from his next visitation. GO AHEAD! Because we will have it documented that you failed to show at the designated time. I do get pleasure knowing she had to drive 2 hours back to our location, and has to make a 4 hour trip back to her house. She wont get home until 5am and has to work at 6am.