We have been together for six years, married not yet six months. He is still in weekly contact with his ex, sometimes up to an hour conversation. All this goes on during his work hours, not in our home. Of course they only talk about their children. They are 29 and 24. Yes, they are very much still children. Both still very needy. When I recently asked my husband about an hour phone call with the ex, he told me "if I felt I needed to end the call before that time I would have." I feel that they just can't break the connection.