Should we give them our new address?

My fiance's family is pretty much not speaking to him at all. We just moved to a new house. His brother was our landlord at the house we just moved from. He's not speaking to us either, except in landlord capacity. Our cell number and email addresses are all remaining the same.

So, should we bother giving them our new address and home phone? I don't see any need, and frankly I wish we lived three states away, but my fiance thinks he should just volunteer it all.

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My DH is estranged from his parents. At first, his lunatic mother claimed that he never gave them our new address and phone number. But after they majorly screwed us over by taking us to court on false accusations (DH's mother is an adult bully), she mysteriously had the address to give to the court to serve us our papers and the phone number as well! And it hadn't been listed in the phone book either as I teach and don't want parents calling me at home. DH's mother is a liar! She had it all along. Are you dealing with the same kind of people and crap?

Moral of the story? Do you think his family really needs it? Maybe you could give it to the family member who is least hostile towards your DH with the instructions that he's only to be contacted ICE. See what happens. If they start to bully him, change the phone number or block their phone numbers from calling your house.

I wish you luck in this situation!

Hmmm....

You know, it think it all depends on the circumstances... are they mad at you? Or is it the other way around?

If it's that they are upset at you for a decision that you have made, then I think I would be a bigger person, and provide them with phone numbers only. If you really need to provide addresses, get a po box, and give that to them. For years, I had to use a po box because my ex would hound me down, so I had my address unlisted, and just gave everyone my po box address.

StepMom

Man has the intelligence to change his life,
Sometimes, he just fails to use it...

Both - they are mad that

Both - they are mad that they can't see the kids at the drop of a hat and for whole weekends of my fiance's time. I am angry at the way they have treated me plus he is mad that they are now buddies with his ex.

I have had so much less stress since they haven't been talking to us!

It isn't like they don't have any contact info at all - they have his cell number and his dad works for the same company as my fiance. I just don't think it matters if they have our new address/home phone at this point. They never called our house anyway - they never wanted to accidentally have to talk to me. He thinks we should send out a mass email. I say why bother - if they ever make arrangements to come over, give it to them then.

It's petty, I know, but so many times I have to swallow my pride and tongue regarding the kids and other matters that I just feel like being petty on this one.