I am so p;isssssssed off I could scream...sorry have to vent...may be long
SS13 is such an annoying little brat!!! Firstly I am pissed with the fh because SS13 has a project/assignment due this Thursday and what does he do...2 days before it is due in.....copies stuff off the internet and is going to tell SS13 what to write and he must just copy it. What a BS way of parenting!!!! SS13 has ADD and is 2 years behind his peers due to slack schooling etc etc but this takes the cake!!! The child is not dyslexic...just a bit slow and hates school (no wonder, hey!). I was absolutely gobslapped when I heard FH tell SS13 that he need not worry about the project as he has everytning for him and he must spend time tomorrow copying it out!! FH could see I was upset and made excuses as always for his bad parenting. Now in FH's defence, he is an extremely busy man, but what ever happened to asking for help? Recently I helped my BD11 who is in the same grade as SS13 with her project, but she had done everything herself...all I helped her with was getting pictures off the web and letting her use my pc to do headings etc. Now my question to FH is, what will SS13 do when he gets to grade 7 and is living with his mom (which is his plan, as she is too destitute to have him now) and she is a bit intellectually challenged, and has to help, or shall I say spoon-feed the child with his projects, which will be more hectic in High School!!!! As I write this, I have my laptop music loud, because the little s#*t is sitting in the bath farting so loadly that I can hear it in my room!! Also he has his cellphone on in there, full blast, after I have repeatedly warned the kids not to take the cellphone into the bathroom, as the steam is not good for it and then it will break and it will become our problem!!(as usual). Sorry...had to vent, this is not the first time that this has happened.
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Wow lol.. As to the bathroom
Wow lol.. As to the bathroom part.. I can tell your pissed.. As for his school project, that is bullshit! I would be upset. If the kids is having trouble in school, he should not be holding his hand while giving him answers! What's is he gonna do when ss is 18? And is not graduating cause he half assed his way thru school?? Come on, he should be sitting next to ss while he works on getting info for his project.. Depending on what its for idk... But maybe take him to the library to do research, show him how to do the research.. He needs to learn these things, its important!
How about trying to find him
How about trying to find him a tutor at school? That would eliminate DH feeling the need to do the work for SS. Does DH realize that in the time it took him to do the work for his son, he could have simply helped him?
This is the 3rd time i am
This is the 3rd time i am trying to reply....internet connection keeps dropping!!! SS13 is one of 4 other kids at a private homeschool, so he gets individual attention. Problem is that FH works 7 days a week and gig after hour to make ends meet. But he won't ask me to help SS13 as he thinks that I hate him. I don't hate him...I just don't like the little sh*t! But I would help out because I love the FH so dearly. This is guilt parenting!! Whenever there's an opportunity for FH to spend time with his son, and I encourage it...he doesn't take the opportunity. BM gets away with a lot because she only sees SS13 in the school holidays. But she is quick to point fingers at our parenting methods.
FH is still at the music
FH is still at the music school teaching and I am dreading him coming hoime, cos when I left him there earlier, he was upset with my comments about his bad parenting! He always says that my kids are perfect and his are f-ups! I have also had a glass of wine (not my usual type) and now my face is red and burning hot!!! The first thing he will say to me is....Do u still have the sh+ts with me? You know, I don't need to care...but I do. SO WTF!!!!
BTW I didn't accuse him of
BTW I didn't accuse him of bad parenting, I just expressed my concern that he was not helping the child in the long run. Previously the child came to him at 8h45 (15 mins before their bedtime) and asked for help and FH just told him all the answers to write in.. I jokingly (but not actually..but I didn't carry my threat through) said..I'm going to tell the teacher!!! I just feel that FH must make time to spend with his son. Sat afternoons & evenings he is at home. as well as Sunday evenings... But I guess he is too tired. I do keep offering to help, but it goes on deaf ears....
Thanks for the advice
Thanks for the advice Kat...If i down another glass I will get a terrible headache and then I will really have an excuse when he gets affectionate in bed later....ha ha! No but serious, it is that I care about these kids and this child has a serious problem...he will be 14 in a couple of months and is still struggling with grade 5. I would be devastated if it were my child. I am lucky that both my kids are clever and don't need much help with school. But they always know that I am available to help them. SS13 is just a little upstart who tries to make life miserable because he is miserable at not being with his mom. I feel for him, but it was his choice to come and live with us and I am not going to even try to be his mommy.. Her's are just too bigger shoes to have to fill!!! (jokes, she isn't a great mother at all...what do u call someone who has sex in her bed with a man and her son is lying next to her?). He runs to tell on me the first opportunity he gets...when I wheel spin the car on the wet grass....he can't wait to tell dad. When I drive too fast...oh yes...dad will know before the day is out! Grrrrr I am soooo angry!!!!
Have done that...asked if I
Have done that...asked if I can help and he just says..No thanks, my dad will help me. You see he is crying out for contact with his dad. They never do fun things together. It is a diffocult situation but is money really a replacement for a father spending time with his son? Yet fh will buy the kids expensive computers and playstations and they pull them through their a*ses! SS13 has deleted some of the program files on his pc and now it doesn't work......Shame!
Kat, I need to sign off now,
Kat, I need to sign off now, as FH will be here soon and I must get his supper ready. Thanks, as always for the great advice! Will log on later if FH allows. Sleep tite!! Magoose2010