Can I just say it's extremely frustrating taking the high road sometimes. I promised myself when I divorced my ex-husband that I would not say anything bad about him to our son or in his presence. Since I have been dating a wonderful man who has shared custody of his two children I have extended this promise to his kids regarding their bm. I believe that as the kids get older they will find out the true nature of the people in their lives all by themselves. Badmouthing them on my part will only hurt the kids and my relationship with them.