I need adivice. My stepson turned 15 and is now in high school. BACKGROUND: My husband and I have been together for a little over 4 years. He has had full custody of his children (15 son. 11 daughter) when I came into their life the girl was 7 and the boy was 11. Their mother is on drugs and out on the streets currently. the first couple of years, she bounced in and out of their lives and then one day abandoned them completely. It has been two years since they have seen their mother.