HAH Take that OH I have learnt something about your games...
So during a phone call with OH I asked how his convo with SD went regarding going into dd21's room last Wednesday... and I mentioned about her taking dd11's Bee Movie without permission from her room and that when I told her to find the disc (I found the empty case in her room which OH knows) shetold dd11 she took it to bm's and lost it.
He says she promised him she never went into dd21's room and he believed her, how sure am I that dd is right about someone being in there? I am 100% sure, she has a dream catcher hanging inside next to the door, she leaves a feather caught in the door, inconspicuous unless you know about it. He then went on with how sd had found the dvd so it was all ok. Ummmm NO. It is not all ok, she shouldn't have taken it, and certainly not to bm's. What was he plannng to do about this (ongoing problem)??
His response was classic DARVO.
DEFLECT "oh, and I keep closing skids doors at night but the next night they are open again???? Who is going into THEIR rooms hmmmmm?"
That would be me, i open them every morning to get light into the hallway (long hall with 6 bedrooms off it) and fresh air into the rooms.
ATTACK "Well I think your kids are going in there and you are making excuses..."
At which point I cut him off.
I said do not try and deflect this back onto my kids by making out they have done something wrong. The issue we are discussing right now is your daughter entering the others rooms and taking stuff. We can discuss your issues re the doors next but for now can we stick to one problem at a time?"
LMAO If I hadn't read DARVO on here yesterday I would have jumped straight in to defending my kids who he had just "reversed victim and offender"
But I was wise to him this time and he didn't get away with it.
What he did do was say he had to go, and we would talk later.
Oh well. I can now see what he does so clearly!!
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Ok I missed a post. What is
Ok I missed a post.
What is DARVO?
Honestly: Since the skid cannot stay out of your kids rooms: buy them locking doorknobs YOU keep a key (so they cant lock you out) give your daughters keys to their rooms... and let them lock the doors to keep the little thief out.
I missed the Darvo post too.
I missed the Darvo post too. i'll search for it and see if i can post a link. but it appears it's -
Deflect
Attack
Reverse Victim and Offender
standard toolbox for a shitty arguer
Yeah, that is pretty standard
Yeah, that is pretty standard unfortunately. Ugh. I swear it seems some DHs play more games than the BMs do.
I don't like your DH. And I
I don't like your DH. And I would not raise my kids around him.
Get a lock for your daughters
Get a lock for your daughters door and make her replace the video....You are tolerating this and there is no reason for it...