well first i want to update about SS9. he got to go home the other night. BM called FMIL and asked her why FH had not called to check on SS. MIL told her well if you were him and he treated you the way you treat him would you call? she said that she said that he couldnt come up, but i didnt say he couldnt call! WTH?!?!?! well she said that he could call when they got home and left a time frame he could call in. he called and left a message on the machine.... no call back! so he told me last night that he was done trying to please them.