I am a mom and a step mom to 5 kids.  I have 3 boys that are from a pervious marriage and my husband now has 2 daughters from his previous marriage.  3 of the 5 kids live with us part of the time.  The oldest has his own home and the oldest girl only lives with mom.  We have been together for 7 years and married for 4.  The kids are well taken care of, active at school and friends.  Involved in church.  Just good kids.  Just one problem.  The oldest daughter, lets call her D1.  We have had lots of problems with her and following the rules at our house and if you tried to tell her no or disi