H's SIL is a very jealous individual. No one can have anything bigger or better than her. I'm sure you all know the type. Every time I turn around she is bragging about something she or one of her family members do or have, etc. I have always tried to ignore this just to get along with her for family unity. Well, right now, I alone am doing much better than her family. SIL has not worked in over 30 years but seems obsessed with what I have slaved to accomplish in that same time frame. While I am now enjoying the benefits of my hard work her future is less certain. OF course she neglects to consider that that was by her and her Husband's choice. To blame me or to be jealous of me is ridiculous! I could tell some stories but what is the point - she is what she is. (One funny recent example though was that :jawdrop: I did catch one of her family members checking out the bottom of my newest dishes at Christmas - can you believe???) :jawdrop:

I even understand that she has recently gone so far as to complain about the fact that my family gets the same benefits from the family business that that she and her family have enjoyed for years - namely insurance. She even had the nerve to complain to one of our friends that I should be paying for the insurance costs for my family myself. I suppose in her warped mind only she and her family are entitled to insurance that my H helps pay for. WTH???? :jawdrop: She is also the tpe that wants to pretend to be a martyr. For example she will B**CH about her H's ex repeatedly but then go out of her way to invite her to spend a week at her house ( I'm sure to show it off)when the ex came to town. Of course after she left all SIL did was complain about the ex's stay......

Interestingly, for years she has disliked my H's exwife. Has had nothing to do with her. But all of a sudden she has befriended her on Facebook last year. She has also within the last two years befriended my SD34 - who she has called an insincere little XXXXXXX that you can not trust. I can't repeat what she has said about BM for the past 29 years - which is why I find this curious. She has also gone out of her way to entertain my H's adult children during the holidays despite the fact that she said she could not stand SS 35 for how horrible he was to her H.

Equally funny is the fact that adult skids can't stand her! I can not count the times that SD has complained about SILs better than anyone else attitude and snobbery. SD 34 has also complained about SILs daughter. She has always been jealous of SILs daughter even as a child and she tried to beat her up when they were young adults. SD 34 has always been friends with SILs SD 40 and they are both convinced that SIL's daughter gets more than SD40 so rampant jealousy and hatred there. SD34 has stated that SIls daughter was just the same as SIL so there was no love lost there but you wouldn't know it now as they are all acting like they are long lost loves!!!

SS35 has also hated SIL and her husband and has had almost as many adult inappropriate temper tantrums with them as he has had with H. SS 35 claims that he is angry with anyone that said anything ugly about H's mother - yet he is now playing nice with SIL who I know he overheard making many derogatory comments about her!!!! More hypocrisy from the KING of hypocrisy himself! SS 35 also had the audacity to asked SIL's future son-in-law why he was going to marry SILs daughter - trying to get between the two, another example of his manipulation attempts.

Yet, all of a sudden because of what must be excessive jealousy on her part against me and/or H - SIL has overlooked all of these past transgressions from BM and H's adult skids and decided to befriend them. Neither H nor I have ever done anything close to what Skids have done to SIL, her H or her Daughter - yet she suddenly needs to become besties with them in what appears to be an attempt to get back at us.

For what? I am not guite sure other than she seems resentful about us doing better than her. Oh, she is also jealous that H has forged a best friend relationship with someone they knew longer than us. To that I just have to say GROW UP WHY DONT YOU!

I still have to invite her to some functions for appearances but I DONT TELL HER ANYTHING so she has nothing to pass on but her own issues such as what pattern of everyday china I use. None of this will end up mattering to skids as I either purchased this myself and/or H is leaving what little he owns in the household etc, etc, to me in his will....so ....

Can't wait until SILs skids find out what they are not getting in her and BIls will!!!!! I think that will probably stop the love affair......What hypocrites!

As I type this I have come to the conclusion that really this bunch of hyprocrites and warped personaliites deserve each other. I predict that all of this will implode in their faces as my H's adult kids are none to stable as is and BM is definitely unstable - all it will take is just one misword or misstep.......

Just wondering what others think though about this situation? Is this uncommon or have other people's family members suddenly attempted a BFF relationship with the ex and skids to extract some sort of revenge against you and or your H for no real reason????