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A new deeper twist on the "spousal status" parent-child relationship

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Submitted by LizzieA on Mon, 06/14/2010 - 9:59am

I have long been puzzled by our BM, who has NO hobbies or interests, does not clean, cook, garden, grocery shop, do laundry, etc, left the child care to DH (he got up in the night), etc. She works a f/t job, that is it. She also treats her kids (21 and 17) like friends, with a total inability to parent.

Well, I like to understand human nature and I came across something called "dependent personality disorder, the immature subtype"

"Immature Dependent

OT--My mother is being a jerk

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Submitted by LizzieA on Sun, 12/27/2009 - 1:18pm

The good news: my daughter had a beautiful baby girl a week ago! We are going to see her next week, since we live about 1000 miles away. My other daughter is flying in, too, and it will be the first time in over a year that I have seen my girls. I can't wait!

OD is 30 and she has a nice BF with a very supportive family. They bought her baby furniture, a new bed and opened a $1000 saving account for baby. It was one of those unplanned pregnancies but certainly a great joy to OD, BF, me and DH, YD, and BF's family.

An entry in the dumbest BM contest

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Submitted by LizzieA on Mon, 11/02/2009 - 2:59pm

In the divorce, DH was allowed to claim one kid--every year, no contingencies. BM wrote this up herself. Remember that point.
The first year after the divorce, we asked her to sign the custodial parent form--you don't need this, you can send a copy of the divorce instead. She wouldn't sign it, big surprise, and got mad at DH saying to him, "You f****** me" meaning taking the exemption.
Too bad, BM!
Today we got a letter from the IRS saying someone else had used SKIDS social on their tax return. Three guesses who.

An awesome novel

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Submitted by LizzieA on Mon, 10/12/2009 - 6:17pm

is Stepmother by Carrie Adams. It is from two points of view, a BM who blew it big time with her husband and wants him back and the stepmother to be. It really explores both points of view. The BM becomes a mess and it is her own fault. This woman must have really talked to a lot of SMs who deal with issues of guilt daddy, a princess SD, and doing everything for the Skids cause that's what happens.

So hurt but trying to get over it

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Submitted by LizzieA on Wed, 09/30/2009 - 7:34am

Situation: DH's family decided they wanted him to go to his grand's 1st b-day and that one SIL would pay for HIS ticket. This is behind our backs, probably set in motion by SD who was playing the old heartstrings.

Well, we can't afford to pay to go, money is very tight and we just booked tickets for a few months out to see MY soon to be born grand and see DH's family too. We still don't have the funds for the rest of that trip, i.e rental car, etc.

More in-law manipulation

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Submitted by LizzieA on Sat, 09/26/2009 - 12:01pm

Things have been blissfully quiet on the western front, but then a new situation popped up and is stressing out my DH and me! A brief recap: DH has two kids, SD 20 and SS 16 who live with BM in another state. I have 3 controlling SILS who can't live without their slave and baby boy, er, I mean DH. MIL is a case but likes me. SILS were jealous and against our marriage from day one. They are 1. long divorced. 2. spinster 3. sports widow. They are unhappy and have a closed family system like stepaside talked about.

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