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BM needs to stick to her BF family not DH's family!

livinthedream's picture

DH family cant understand why we dont come for holidays. Maybe its because BM always has to make her surprise visit when she drops off skids. Now, I dont think that some of the other step parents there would like it it the bio parent showed up by surprise. BM is always looking for handouts from DH family who cater to her every whim..its sickening!

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StayorGo's picture

My bf's mother has his ex on her facebook page... but not me... go figure. The bf's mom knows more about her ex DIL life than she should... and as my bf's SIL put it, "sometimes it takes the inlaws longer to accept the new person in their son or daughters life than everyone else"... makes no sense but damn doesnt it happen that way.

Has your DH told his family... hey have all the relationship you want with my ex BUT if we are around we dont want to see or hear her or about her? I would really think your DH's family would love and care for family over ex family but WTH do I know. Sometimes family that just dont get the bigger picture, is as useless as snow tires in Florida!

livinthedream's picture

I really appreciate all the support.I have realized that DH family is not important at all. I need to focus on the good in my life & the friends & family that will be there for lovingkindness. Its hard for DH to be seperated from his family. His pain is his!I let him know that Im ok with him going to spend time with his family as much as he wants ..but for me its not a choice. I need to remember that I dont have to let it control my life. Keepin the focus on me.