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Submitted by lisa510 on Sun, 09/05/2010 - 9:30pm

Not getting a trampoline, for Pete's sake, she's 16!!! Why does DH entertain the idea of getting a trampoline with SD16 without even consulting me. He's always saying how this is my house and I need to feel like it's mine and treat it like it's mine. Sooooooo.....then why am I not asked about buying a stupid trampoline!!

He let her paint her room black, neon green and pink!!! Didn't even ask me about that and I let it slide! BIG F#@CKING MISTAKE!!!

Now the stupid trampoline.

Sorry for the language but it's like never ending!!! We never have a day that doesn't end in an argument about the skids!!

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lisa510's picture

Submitted by lisa510 on Mon, 09/06/2010 - 8:47am

The main reason I'm upset about the trampoline issue is because my DH always tells me how much this home belongs to me. See, I moved in with him; his home was already established and his BS21 lived here with him. It's only been since March this year, but I tend to feel like an outsider sometimes.... a lot of times.

I've invested 20K into adding a master bedroom and double garage to this home. I cook, clean, garden, repair, maintain, pay bills (with him) and even take care of SD16' dog.

So, if I'm the woman of the house (as he says), why wasn't his answer about the trampoline, "Let me think about that one." That way he and I can talk about it.

I don't want to use money to buy a trampoline. I think they are eye sores in a yard. They are dangerous and my DH is the one who will have to pull it around the yard so he can cut the lawn. NEITHER OF THE SKIDS DO ANY CHORES....WE DO IT ALL. So why reward either them just because they WANT something?

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Submitted by mom2five on Mon, 09/06/2010 - 8:54am

I agree! I wouldn't have a trampoline in my back yard. We spend a lot of time making our yard beautiful. No way would I let someone stick an ugly trampoline back there. I don't even think our homeowners covenants would allow it.

But everyone is different I guess. My sister has one in her backyard. It doesn't bother her at all.

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Submitted by PoisonApples on Mon, 09/06/2010 - 9:37am

I can understand that he should discuss things with you but this bit:

He let her paint her room black, neon green and pink!!! Didn't even ask me about that and I let it slide! BIG F#@CKING MISTAKE!!!

I have a problem with.

At 16 I don't see any problem with letting them paint their room any kind of colours/way they want. I think it's very important to let them express themselves at that age.

3 of mine have gone through the teenage years and we had some wild/crazily decorated rooms along the way. I wouldn't dream of forcing MY tastes on them, certainly not when they are teens.