Should I be concerned?
My SO and I both work full time. So my SD9 does the remote learning at her grams. The school has set up a really good remote learning program. (Hoping schools will be open full time for in school learning by the winter term, but we have to wait and see)There are several zoom meetings and lesson plans each day, so all is going well with that...
but here is my concern... I had an email exchange with her teacher who said that she really enjoyed my SD and her singing in class. sounds nice enough but the way it was presented it sounded like SD is signing during class meetings.... not just in music class.
my SD has always liked to the center of attetion, sometimes taking it to far and being disruptive to others.
i hate feeling judgmental of her. She is an outgoing and social kid, and I don't want to make her like she has to stifle who she is. I love that she is confident. However I don't want her using class zoom time to make it all about her, and take away from other kids.
should I say something, or just let it ride and see if the teacher brings it up to me to be addressed? On one hand I want to stop it before it gets to be a problem, but on the other, if the teaches is not concerned about it enough to say it's an issue then I don't want to do anything that would make her feel bad about herself. I want her to be bold and confident! But I want her to be respectful of others as well.
it is a hard call for me to make because I am not there when it is happening, so I don't know the full context.
Grammy is a lot more lax on stuff like that than her father and I so I can't really depend on Grammy to really tell me is SD is not behaving. The teacher made sure to point it out to me, but did not say it was a problem.
it is probably worth mentioning, biomom is not really in the picture other than a phone call once every few months. So leaving any issues for biomom to deal with.... not an option.
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If it becomes an issue bring
If it becomes an issue bring it up to your DH and have him handle it
However, it sounds like it's not a concern right now, and if it beocmes one, I'm sure the teacher will bring it up to youor your DH.
Sounds like she has a pretty good personality that the teacher is enjoying currently, so long as it's not causing issues, there's no problem with that shining through in class.
"Teacher, it is really great
"Teacher, it is really great to hear that she is engaging in class! To clarify, are you saying she is singing when she should be actively listening during class? If so, her father (and I) will have a talk with her and her grandma who watches her during the day. I apologize if she is disrupting class, and please feel free to keep me informed if it continues."
This gives the teacher permission to tell you how she is actually acting without feeling like she's going to be attacked by a parent. You'll get better info from the teacher if she knows you're a "safe" parent that she can disclose the truth in.
Exactly get the teacher to
Exactly get the teacher to clarify it and if it is an issue then address it.
Yes.. this. It may not be an
Yes.. this. It may not be an issue at all.. but if she is keeping the class from focusing then her dad needs to know so that he can address it.
Ideally, he calls the teacher for clarification.. then if it is an issue he can talk with his daughter.. as well as gram.. so that they both are aware of the behavior expectations.
Thank you all for your
Thank you all for your feedback. I talked to dad and he said unless the teacher says it's in issue don't stress. So I'm not going to... if it gets to be where it is an issue then I'm sure the teacher will reach out. I'm stepping back and am going to remember that I don't have to stresss and worrry over every little thing! There are much worse things she could be doing than signing !