Once again, my DH has stormed out of the house because I spoke the TRUTH.

We've had a semin- normal summer as fare as our visitation with bio-mom goes. In the last few years that the kids have been older, and my husband went from 9 month teaching to a year round teaching position, bio-mom and I have worked together to create schedules that work for us and the kids.

No big deal. This summer, SS13 decided he wanted to be with her most of the time, so he's only been home one week since late May. SS15 has summer basketball and has really been refusing to see bio-mom since April. SS17 works most of the time, but will be with whichever parent allows her more time with the boyfriend. And she drives now, so if she wants to see bio-mom, she just goes.

In that aspect, things are a little easier.

But in so many other ways, it's just getting harder...

SS17 is so rude and argumentative. I have no idea who this child is, cause it's not the same kid I've known the last 10 years. "You can't make me." "I'll move in with mom (or boyfriend)" etc. She was mad when I wouldn't let her go to my family reunion this year- I was afraid she'd make a scene. The last night, I felt bad I hadn't allowed her to come, so she drove over with DH and he left her with me. When I set curfew at 11:30, she threw a fit, and ran away around midnight into a dark, crowded camp ground. My DH response- "What'd you do? Why didn't you let her stay out longer?" Needless to say, instead of spending the remainder of the week with me after the rest of the family left, I created an excuse to take her home the next day and then I came back to the reunion.

SS15 is nicer to complete strangers on the street than he is to me. Can't follow the most simple chore request; rude; steals my stuff, etc. And then can't understand why I don't want to give him money and drive him into town to get a soda.

The night DH and went to midnight Harry Potter premiere, my FIL watched the kids. SS15 had a friend over, but he'd forgotten some piece to the Xbox they needed. The boys asked DH to take them home to get the part. DH said no cuz he didn' want to be late for his date with me. (yea!) So after FIL got settled in, and engrossed in the TV, SS15 and friend TOOK (stole?) our truck and drove down dark country roads to the other kid's house to get the part.

My DH says, "I'll take care of it."

SS15 loses the iPod he bought with birthday money last year, so he steals one belonging to his bio-mom's stepsister. My DH says, "I'll take care of it."

for SS15 birthday, we spent an ungodly amount of money to build a half-court size cement pad in the yard for him to practice ball. We have 5 acres in the country, no friends close by, all the kids can play ball and at the age of 15 he'll play varsity next year... He paid $340 towards the final payment. My "other" present to him was that I took SS17 and my BS7 out of town for his birthday so he could have like the whole basketball team over to play ball. My DH ended up having a houseful of teenage boys for 2 days, feeding them and keeping them hydrated while playing ball...

So I get home from my weekend away. SS and DH had house spotless, with help from some of SS friends. DH and I have a nice reunion, cuddle in hammock, dinner, in-laws come over for desert. DH says to SS that he needs to go get his sports physical the next day at the Back to School Clinic. SS says no, he's getting his driver's permit.

Long story short... (Yea, I'm already long winded...) SS totally flips out. Doesn't want to go to the free clinic for sports physical "We're not poor." he says. DH tells him we are now that we poured all that cement! Tells him he should be more grateful after all the work we as parents did the last 6 days to make sure he had an awesome birthday. SS starts slamming doors, and throwing things. DH steps out of room to cool himself off, and we hear bedroom window open. MIL sees SS jump out the window and take off running in the woods!

Two of his friends are still here, so DH tells them to pack up, he'll take them home. we go outside to get them in the truck and after about 15 minutes SS comes walking back up the drive. DH says something to him, and SS starts yelling about me?! "Why'd you marry that b%^$&?! "I've f*&$(%& hated her since I was a kid!"

I don't hear DH response, but he gets in truck and tells all boys to buckle in and they drive off. MIL is stunned, and FIL is in the house with my BS7, making sure he's occupied...

30 minutes later DH comes home alone. Says he left SS at the friends' house, where he will stay a few days while we all cool off. Tells me and his parents he doesn't want to talk about it.

Since this happened 48 hours ago, I have discovered DH bought SS a replacement iPod on ebay a few weeks ago. He's made plans to PAY to get sports physical at doctor's office in stead, and asked his brother to take the SS to get his permit.

WTF? So I confront husband. He doesn't understand why I'm upset... Hello?! ARE YOU BLIND???